For my younger readers:
Christmas is coming! A good time to give my books as presents to all your friends and relatives! OK, I’m not entirely serious but I have to admit that an awful lot of the presents I’ve bought for other people are books – and, of course, I’ve bought them all at my wonderful, local independent bookshop, Warwick Books, in the Market Place in Warwick – where I run my kids’ book group. If you have a local independent bookshop, do try to support it – or you won’t have it much longer – and you won’t have such an interesting choice of books to nip in and browse through! Waterstones’ books are mostly chosen centrally by a very small group of buyers – which is why you’ll have to order my Lion Hudson books (the ‘My Mum’ and ‘St Jenni’ series and ‘The Ghost in the Gallery’ rather than finding them on the shelves) as they’ve been in print for a long time which means they’re not as appealing to Waterstones’ buyers. I also suspect that because they mention God rather a lot, there’s a bit of suspicion about what I’m trying to do to your young minds! But don’t worry – I’m not trying to indoctrinate you! I am a practising Christian but one who is constantly arguing with or at least questioning God – much like Kate in the ‘My Mum’ books. So if you fancy doing a bit of questioning and thinking yourself over the Christmas period – good time to ponder spiritual matters, I think – then a ‘My Mum’ book might be a good starting point!
For my more wrinkly readers:
Apologies for last week’s effort which was long and rambling and of somewhat limited interest to those not as sold on Youth Theatre as me! More of a self-indulgent musing than a blog perhaps – but useful to me to get it out of my head and heart and on a screen in front of me! Having done it, I felt far more confident about going to what was potentially quite a difficult debriefing meeting after my performance week – which went well, as it turned out. And I stuck to my guns about encouraging absolute commitment to attend workshops in a performance term, which to my surprise I was challenged on. Apparently, one parent had complained! One! I wasn’t impressed – anyway, too much already!
This week, I’m inspired to write/rant by my church house group which I attended last night. We were looking at James Chapter 3 which some of you may know is a particularly challenging chapter for me as it’s headed ‘Taming the Tongue’, something I’m not exactly well-known for either virtually or in reality!
Anyway, we got through that bit without too much argument (mine is a very argumentative house group – suits me perfectly!). It was when we got onto the last 5 verses that things got exciting. Here we are told that ‘…if you harbour bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such ‘wisdom’ does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.’
Well, I have no real quibble with that. But one of our members, a man for whom I have great respect, did. He argued that the trouble with it was that ‘to get on in life’ we need a bit of selfish ambition and envy as a motivator. (Apologies for paraphrasing horribly.) He argued that in education, we do this with kids – we use competitiveness as a means of getting them to excel.
I was, I think pretty well behaved – this sort of argument is, for me, like a red rag to a bull. I am deeply suspicious of competitiveness in any shape or form. Some of my most unpleasant memories are of the bitchiness of girls in the competitive arena of netball or hockey. Before the game even starts, while teams are being picked, it brings out the worst in people. I have never found competition against other people to be a good motivator. I have wanted to do the best that I can do – I have, if you like, competed with myself – but the concept of competing against others, I find repellent. That seems to be about glorifying yourself at the expense of others. It looks like ‘selfish ambition’ to me and I am totally happy that James speaks out against it. For exercise, I’ll stick to swimming, walking, cycling and dancing, thanks very much!
I’m quite intrigued to consider how far this goes back for me. My parents were very much of the ‘You do the best you can and never mind anyone else’ school of thought and I know I have been heavily influenced for as long as I can remember by the Parable of the Talents (You have been given gifts by God and it’s up to you to make the most of them). I was not brought up in a conventional Christian family but somewhere along the way I imbibed the idea that co-operation rather than competition is the Christian way to relate to other people. I was, therefore, quite shocked to come up against a direct challenge in my house group. It’s one of those areas where I’ve assumed a more general agreement than exists.
If I try to be a bit more self-aware for a moment and look back, one of the reasons I chose not to send my children to school and educate them at home was because I couldn’t bear the competitiveness that came with having children. Whose baby would roll first, sit first, crawl first, walk first, speak first, be out of nappies first etc etc? School would mean more and worse – who’s child would read first? And ever on! I could see myself being dragged into a horrible way of being that I absolutely wanted to avoid. With fellow-home-edders, we organised non-competitive sports days and ran co-operative games workshops. When I started teaching drama, I avoided any warm-up games that were competitive and any that involved kids being ‘out’. I still do! And how do I organise my youth theatre companies? Do we audition? No, we don’t! We are as inclusive as we possibly can be. And do children achieve? Yes, of course they do! Not because they are in competition with others but because they are having fun and enjoying the learning for its own sake.
Now is this what my Christian friends do? No, of course not! They send their kids to school and sign them up for the local football club! Doh! So what I do or rather the philosophy that it springs from isn’t accepted mainstream Christianity. I can see why. You can read ‘selfish ambition’ and not read that as ‘competition’. We all know there are inspiring Christian sports men and women. But somehow, I’m not entirely comfortable with the idea. If there are winners, then there are losers – and really I don’t want anybody to experience the pain of losing. That doesn’t seem to be peace-loving, considerate, full of mercy or impartial! I even feel uncomfortable with the fact that some of my books get published when so many other people’s don’t.
In the mix last night we also threw ‘getting on’ in the work-place. How would a Christian who was ‘peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere’ do in business? Another member of our group very perceptively asked ‘Do you think Jesus ran his business along those lines?’ The answer, I think, has to be ‘Yes, he did – and that was one reason he got crucified.’ So how would a Christian contestant do on ‘The Apprentice’? Well, if they’re following James’ words, they’d get crucified too. And that’s the really difficult bit. We have to acknowledge that by accepting this teaching, by spurning a competitive approach and being co-operators, mercy givers and peace-makers, we will not necessarily be winners. We may not ‘get on’ in life to the same extent as those who embrace selfish ambition. We may (and many of us do!), find ourselves working in low-paid ‘caring’ or ‘people’ professions. We may find ourselves the victims of the more ruthless and more worldly.
Once we’re talking winners and losers, we move into another whole arena. What is war but another ghastly form of competition, a complete breakdown of co-operation? I know, of course, that Christians disagree on the validity of making war – but I have never quite been able to see why. Read passages such as James 3 17-18 and it seems to me that war defenders haven’t a leg to stand on. ‘Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness.’ Clear enough?
It seems to me that those who argue that we must embrace the world’s competitiveness alongside our Christianity or we will not ‘get on’, that in certain circumstances we must make war to stop some tyrant or other, continually prevent us from seeing whether the approach advocated by James would really work. Ethical businesses are not (if we use a competitive metaphor!) allowed to play on a level playing field and war defenders rant about innocent victims of tyranny and are remarkably silent about the far greater numbers of innocent victims of war.
By following Jesus we need to accept that in very significant ways we are choosing to be losers – we are signing up for pain – or we are given the way the world works at the moment! We may even be choosing the biggest loss of all. We may be called upon to be martyrs. But perhaps that is a better than end than being a murderer. It’s the one that Jesus chose, after all.
PS. If this doesn’t get you arguing with me, then I despair!!! Come on, all you sports players!
Wednesday 19 December 2007
Thursday 13 December 2007
Meg muses about Youth Theatre
For my younger readers:
Many people think that writers spend all their time slaving over a hot computer! Well, as you may have realised from my web-site, I don’t! In fact, I spend remarkably little time actually writing books. One of the other things I do is teaching youth theatre in the Mill Arts Centre, something I love. I run four companies, 5-7s, 8-11s (two companies) and 12-14s. There’s also a 14+ group but I don’t run that – I should think they’ve had enough of me by then!
We don’t ‘do plays’ as such – we devise our own material, a process I find very difficult to explain but it’s a lot of fun. If you want to know more, read my blog for wrinklies below!
If you live in the Banbury area, then we have a few spaces left for next term so you’re welcome to join – but they’re going fast! If you’d like to join a different youth theatre, then contact the National Association of Youth Theatres and see if there’s one in your area. They are all unique – unlike Stagecoach which is a very different thing and very expensive compared with youth theatre. You should have enormous fun, meet some great people and develop all sorts of skills you never knew you had!
For my more wrinkly readers:
Last week was performance week for me. All my four youth theatre companies were showcasing the plays they had created in their workshops this term, along with the various dance and other arts groups which train at The Mill Arts Centre in Banbury. A friend asked me ‘what we had done’. I found it incredibly hard and frustrating to try to explain briefly – a nerve had been touched – suddenly I wanted the whole world to know about the wonder of devising theatre with young people. So I decided it would be the subject of this week’s blog.
I first got involved in youth theatre almost by accident. I’d had to teach drama when I was teaching English – it just goes with the territory – and then, when I was home-educating, I started a home-edders drama group. When a job running the youth theatre group at The Mill for just two hours a week came up, I applied, feeling that I wasn’t properly qualified at all. No one else applied so I got the job – and promptly regretted it. I had a group of, I think 3 very disenchanted children to which I added my 2 daughters. One girl in particular sneered at or tried to undermine everything we did. It was very evident that she was only there because she fancied one of the boys. After a term of struggling with her, I refused to allow her to re-enrol – the only time I have ever had to do that – and from there we have gone from strength to strength. Four years ago a did an MA in Theatre and Drama Education, realising that this was an area I loved working in and that, for my own self-confidence, I needed to get qualified. It was a wonderful experience. There are now around 60 young people involved in 4 different companies and it looks like I might well start a second Minis company in the New Year, for 5-7 year olds. So what is it that I do and why do I feel so passionate about it?
I very quickly decided that for performances, we would devise and we would take a very physical approach. There were several reasons for this:
We were only being offered brief slots of about 20 minutes in the Showcases of youth arts, twice a year.
We have no budget for set or props and we get about half an hour per group with the technician before each run of performances!
Trying to find a play that would suit my clientele twice a year seemed like too much of a mission – now I’d be looking for 8!
I had only recently discovered the concepts of devising and physical theatre and I was very excited by both.
Most importantly, if you devise, you can, if you choose to, keep your whole group busy and having fun for almost 100% of the time. You can choose to have very little hanging around time which is crucial when you’re working with kids who, in most cases, have already done a day at school and may not have had time for tea. The last thing you want is them getting disgruntled because they’re bored!
I quickly found there were other advantages in this way of working too:
You can allow kids to choose how much involvement to have. They can speak or not speak, they can have bigger, key roles or hide away in the ensemble all the time. Obviously, this doesn’t always work out to everyone’s satisfaction but the potential is there, much more than if you are working from a script.
You use the kids’ own words to a large extent which gradually get honed over the weeks into something precise that they have learnt – but they don’t always have to say exactly the same thing and it rarely gets written down – so you avoid kids becoming very stilted and it isn’t necessary for company members to be able to read.
The companies are quite unusual in being about equally popular with boys and girls. I put this down to the hectic, physical, hardly-time-to-draw breath approach to a lot of what we do!
But I still haven’t described exactly what it is we do or what’s so wonderful about it! Well, here’s an attempt.
I take a bunch of 16 random kids (the maximum size I can work with in the space). There are no auditions - if you join the company, you perform. And I take a story or a theme – there’s some negotiation on this but not a lot. We may do some initial improvisation to flag up key points - but often we don't because time isn't on our side - basically we have 20 or so hours (or 10 for 5-7s) to get a show created during a performance term. I work out what scenes we need if it's a story - if it's a theme, it can be more open-ended. Then we set to and create the scenes - and that's where it gets really difficult to explain! Sometimes it's a case of working in groups to create parts of a scene which are then spliced together. Sometimes I'll create a script - very short speeches so everyone who wants a line can have one or more. Sometimes I'll suggest how I think a scene might go, we try it and the kids come up with massive improvements. When we're trying to decide who will have any leading roles, we'll improvise a key scene and then 'forum' it - ie. anyone who thinks they can do it in a different way can, in turn, have a go - and the scene we've used will become part of the piece. Sometimes one of the kids will just come up with something brilliant that we add in. When we've got a few scenes roughed out, we start running them together and they start getting honed down and suggestions are made for improvements and then we add more scenes and run again - and usually I panic because we're trying to do far too much in the time - and so it goes on until finally we have a pretty polished piece. And most they of the time, most of the people are on stage and busy and happy and have some ownership of what they've created. Our sets are rarely more than chairs and tables and the odd bit of cloth! We use some props (this time the youth art group made us a fantastic giant's head and tooth) and I made a puppet, but a large part of me loves our minimalist approach because drama is about the magic which happens within a space that we have defined as theatre and it is very liberating to be free of the clutter of set or any attempt at naturalism. And I love the fact that the kids can own what we have created and are, throughout the creative process, empowered to make their own contributions. And miraculously, they become an amazing team that covers for mistakes and people who are ill and affirm each other but spot what goes wrong and raise it, and most importantly, have a great deal of harmless fun. I don't know if parents understand - whether they expect something longer or more traditional or less ensemble or more naturalistic - but every time we perform, it feels like a small miracle has happened and that, for me, is the wonder of devising theatre - to take a group of people and a space and to be able to create something out of nothing. To see kids' confidence bloom and to watch even those who have come with a fixed idea of ‘acting’ become beguiled by what we do is a real joy and seems very precious. When I realise that I have inadvertently crushed someone, it is agony – but there becomes such a sense of togetherness in each company, that the members are very forgiving both of me and, on the whole, of each other. To a large extent, it’s just an extension of what children do anyway – though not enough in my view these days – and that is creative play. It's all so simple and yet in some ways so complex. I think it hits absolutely every principle I hold dear.
I used to think that what I most wanted to be was a writer. Now I’m not so sure. My hours of youth theatre are gradually increasing and I can think of ways of expanding the job. It would have to be at the expense of writing time. And which is more worthwhile? I don’t know! Your comments are very welcome! Thank you.
Many people think that writers spend all their time slaving over a hot computer! Well, as you may have realised from my web-site, I don’t! In fact, I spend remarkably little time actually writing books. One of the other things I do is teaching youth theatre in the Mill Arts Centre, something I love. I run four companies, 5-7s, 8-11s (two companies) and 12-14s. There’s also a 14+ group but I don’t run that – I should think they’ve had enough of me by then!
We don’t ‘do plays’ as such – we devise our own material, a process I find very difficult to explain but it’s a lot of fun. If you want to know more, read my blog for wrinklies below!
If you live in the Banbury area, then we have a few spaces left for next term so you’re welcome to join – but they’re going fast! If you’d like to join a different youth theatre, then contact the National Association of Youth Theatres and see if there’s one in your area. They are all unique – unlike Stagecoach which is a very different thing and very expensive compared with youth theatre. You should have enormous fun, meet some great people and develop all sorts of skills you never knew you had!
For my more wrinkly readers:
Last week was performance week for me. All my four youth theatre companies were showcasing the plays they had created in their workshops this term, along with the various dance and other arts groups which train at The Mill Arts Centre in Banbury. A friend asked me ‘what we had done’. I found it incredibly hard and frustrating to try to explain briefly – a nerve had been touched – suddenly I wanted the whole world to know about the wonder of devising theatre with young people. So I decided it would be the subject of this week’s blog.
I first got involved in youth theatre almost by accident. I’d had to teach drama when I was teaching English – it just goes with the territory – and then, when I was home-educating, I started a home-edders drama group. When a job running the youth theatre group at The Mill for just two hours a week came up, I applied, feeling that I wasn’t properly qualified at all. No one else applied so I got the job – and promptly regretted it. I had a group of, I think 3 very disenchanted children to which I added my 2 daughters. One girl in particular sneered at or tried to undermine everything we did. It was very evident that she was only there because she fancied one of the boys. After a term of struggling with her, I refused to allow her to re-enrol – the only time I have ever had to do that – and from there we have gone from strength to strength. Four years ago a did an MA in Theatre and Drama Education, realising that this was an area I loved working in and that, for my own self-confidence, I needed to get qualified. It was a wonderful experience. There are now around 60 young people involved in 4 different companies and it looks like I might well start a second Minis company in the New Year, for 5-7 year olds. So what is it that I do and why do I feel so passionate about it?
I very quickly decided that for performances, we would devise and we would take a very physical approach. There were several reasons for this:
We were only being offered brief slots of about 20 minutes in the Showcases of youth arts, twice a year.
We have no budget for set or props and we get about half an hour per group with the technician before each run of performances!
Trying to find a play that would suit my clientele twice a year seemed like too much of a mission – now I’d be looking for 8!
I had only recently discovered the concepts of devising and physical theatre and I was very excited by both.
Most importantly, if you devise, you can, if you choose to, keep your whole group busy and having fun for almost 100% of the time. You can choose to have very little hanging around time which is crucial when you’re working with kids who, in most cases, have already done a day at school and may not have had time for tea. The last thing you want is them getting disgruntled because they’re bored!
I quickly found there were other advantages in this way of working too:
You can allow kids to choose how much involvement to have. They can speak or not speak, they can have bigger, key roles or hide away in the ensemble all the time. Obviously, this doesn’t always work out to everyone’s satisfaction but the potential is there, much more than if you are working from a script.
You use the kids’ own words to a large extent which gradually get honed over the weeks into something precise that they have learnt – but they don’t always have to say exactly the same thing and it rarely gets written down – so you avoid kids becoming very stilted and it isn’t necessary for company members to be able to read.
The companies are quite unusual in being about equally popular with boys and girls. I put this down to the hectic, physical, hardly-time-to-draw breath approach to a lot of what we do!
But I still haven’t described exactly what it is we do or what’s so wonderful about it! Well, here’s an attempt.
I take a bunch of 16 random kids (the maximum size I can work with in the space). There are no auditions - if you join the company, you perform. And I take a story or a theme – there’s some negotiation on this but not a lot. We may do some initial improvisation to flag up key points - but often we don't because time isn't on our side - basically we have 20 or so hours (or 10 for 5-7s) to get a show created during a performance term. I work out what scenes we need if it's a story - if it's a theme, it can be more open-ended. Then we set to and create the scenes - and that's where it gets really difficult to explain! Sometimes it's a case of working in groups to create parts of a scene which are then spliced together. Sometimes I'll create a script - very short speeches so everyone who wants a line can have one or more. Sometimes I'll suggest how I think a scene might go, we try it and the kids come up with massive improvements. When we're trying to decide who will have any leading roles, we'll improvise a key scene and then 'forum' it - ie. anyone who thinks they can do it in a different way can, in turn, have a go - and the scene we've used will become part of the piece. Sometimes one of the kids will just come up with something brilliant that we add in. When we've got a few scenes roughed out, we start running them together and they start getting honed down and suggestions are made for improvements and then we add more scenes and run again - and usually I panic because we're trying to do far too much in the time - and so it goes on until finally we have a pretty polished piece. And most they of the time, most of the people are on stage and busy and happy and have some ownership of what they've created. Our sets are rarely more than chairs and tables and the odd bit of cloth! We use some props (this time the youth art group made us a fantastic giant's head and tooth) and I made a puppet, but a large part of me loves our minimalist approach because drama is about the magic which happens within a space that we have defined as theatre and it is very liberating to be free of the clutter of set or any attempt at naturalism. And I love the fact that the kids can own what we have created and are, throughout the creative process, empowered to make their own contributions. And miraculously, they become an amazing team that covers for mistakes and people who are ill and affirm each other but spot what goes wrong and raise it, and most importantly, have a great deal of harmless fun. I don't know if parents understand - whether they expect something longer or more traditional or less ensemble or more naturalistic - but every time we perform, it feels like a small miracle has happened and that, for me, is the wonder of devising theatre - to take a group of people and a space and to be able to create something out of nothing. To see kids' confidence bloom and to watch even those who have come with a fixed idea of ‘acting’ become beguiled by what we do is a real joy and seems very precious. When I realise that I have inadvertently crushed someone, it is agony – but there becomes such a sense of togetherness in each company, that the members are very forgiving both of me and, on the whole, of each other. To a large extent, it’s just an extension of what children do anyway – though not enough in my view these days – and that is creative play. It's all so simple and yet in some ways so complex. I think it hits absolutely every principle I hold dear.
I used to think that what I most wanted to be was a writer. Now I’m not so sure. My hours of youth theatre are gradually increasing and I can think of ways of expanding the job. It would have to be at the expense of writing time. And which is more worthwhile? I don’t know! Your comments are very welcome! Thank you.
Wednesday 5 December 2007
No blog this week - sorry!
I have to admit defeat - it's my performance week for the youth theatre companies that I run so I'm at the Arts Centre where I work every night this week and am short on time for ranting! Could rant about the challenges of working in the underfunded arts and say my bit about the impact of the Olympics and the 35% cut in funding that that's meant for the Arts Council but other people have ranted better elsewhere! But I'm beginning to feel my blood boiling or the sap rising or something just thinking about it so I shall stop now and maybe blog about it next week!
Wednesday 28 November 2007
Meg rants about Alcohol!
For my younger readers:
This week, I want to recommend a book I’ve just read. It’s called ‘The Portal’ by Andrew Norris. It’s Sci-Fi for anyone 9 or above, I think. It’s set in our world and then it strays off in a very intriguing way. There’s a real mystery to think about and some fantastic characters. I particularly liked the dog, Timber. I’m very fond of dogs in books – I have Wulfie in ‘Piper’, Munch in ‘Ghost in the Gallery’ and Rover in ‘My Mum and the Hound from Hell’. Makes up for not having one of my own at present! Timber is very appealing and not just your average dog – you’ll have to read the book to discover more! I was gripped from the word go and the style is very light and readable – just my sort of thing!
I’m looking forward to the sequel and, as I’m very, very picky about books, that’s high praise!
For my more wrinkly readers:
I’ve just had a birthday party – about four weeks late but that’s how it goes. Life for everyone is busy, busy, busy and it took some planning to get most (I couldn’t get all) of my favourite people there. I was a bit stressed throughout the evening – was everyone enjoying themselves? Would any of these randomly assorted people argue horribly? Was the food OK and would I poison anyone? But everyone appeared to have a good time.
Quite recently, a friend who is currently on the other side of the world told me that one of the things she appreciated about me was that all my friends were mad, bad or just plain controversial. On consideration, I think she is probably right. Certainly looking round my party guests, I knew that a fair number would admit to a degree of madness or badness or both! And just plain controversial? Well, probably all of them, to some degree – that’s one of the reasons I like them.
What’s controversial about them? Well, lots of things – but the thing that struck me given the party context was that I’d told them on the invitation not to expect alcohol; if they really had to have it they should bring their own. Only two people did and one bottle was still untouched at the end of the evening. In this day and age, if 18 people gather for a party and only one bottle of wine gets drunk between them, that seems to me fairly controversial. And it wasn’t as if they sat around all evening being poker-faced and miserable. Far from it! Some of them were still here at 2.30 in the morning, playing a no holds barred board game called ‘Therapy’.
I myself have never drunk alcohol beyond a polite sip of champagne at weddings (I’ve given even that up now as I detest the stuff) and some very welcome Murphy’s Irish Stout just after my twins were born – it’s supposed to help with the breastfeeding – I’m not convinced! So why not?
a) I think I was put off by a very jolly uncle’s premature death from alcoholism and resultant sclerosis of the liver when I was young and impressionable.
b) I don’t particularly like the taste.
c) I seriously dislike the effect on other people, from the smell of their breath to the disturbance in their behaviour, and can see no attraction in inflicting that on myself.
d) I don’t need artificial stimulants to enjoy myself.
What I don’t understand is why other people seem to like alcohol so much and actively seek its effects. I can just about understand the desire to loosen inhibitions a little - the ‘Dutch courage’ argument - but to actively seek drunkenness and oblivion seems to me utterly bizarre. Life is short. Why, unless you are miserable, would you want to deliberately miss any of it – or not be able to remember it, at least? Why do I hear so many young people saying, ‘Yeh – it was great! I couldn’t remember a thing about it next morning!’ Why is that great? And what is the point of spending time with people who are operating in a space divorced from reality? What I enjoy about spending time with other people is finding out what they think, how they tick, sharing views and experiences. I want to discover the ‘real’ them, in as much as that is ever possible. Once it is clouded by alcohol, I lose interest. The person I am talking to is no longer ‘real’. He or she becomes less inhibited, more out-spoken, louder, less witty and less sharp-brained. Often he or she will become boringly loquacious and repetitive, become too socially dominant and not know when or where to stop. And it takes remarkably little alcohol to see all these effects. So few people drink no alcohol on social occasions that I’m not sure how aware people are of all this. A solution, of course, is to join in – I prefer not to.
I probably sound like a prig and kill-joy but, without alcohol, I can still have a fantastic time. I get so high dancing that I worry what would happen if I added alcohol to the mix! And I don’t think anyone was complaining at my party the other night! The fact is that we do have an alcohol problem in this country – and I’m blessed if I can see why. What are people getting out of it? When I was doing my MA a couple of years ago, I used the university swimming pool. Time and again I would hear students in the changing rooms discussing their plans to get drunk. Going out for a drink, going to a party and, if you’re a bit shy, lubricating things a bit, I can just about understand – but actually planning to go out and get drunk? What’s that about? Knowing in advance of your birthday that the day after you won’t be doing anything because you’ll be ‘recovering’ – where’s the fun in that? And isn’t anyone ever worried about what they might do while they’re so out of it? Like get pregnant, pick up an STD, get into a fight, walk under some traffic, fall in the river and drown (like one of my ancestors did)? What about the financial cost? What about the long term health risks? What about the calories? What, could someone please explain, are the advantages? Are people so bored and miserable that they really have to have alcohol to add some sparkle? If so, how deeply, deeply sad.
My own children, I have never seen drunk. That doesn’t mean they haven’t been or that we haven’t had parties where alcohol has flowed liberally – mostly over the kitchen floor, from what I can remember. There was a great moment when someone filled my large Le Creuset with vomit, I recall. My children seem to hide their excesses from me. Not that I rant and rave about alcohol, except here. I just very evidently don’t do alcohol and neither does their dad – so maybe they feel uncomfortable about their own consumption – I don’t know. Over the years, the issue of how you introduce alcohol into a young person’s life in a way that is reasonable and sensible has troubled me. We all talk about the French introducing it from an early age and diluting it. Sounds like an excellent plan if you’re regular wine drinkers – not that I think I know anyone who has actually done it. But was I supposed to buy wine specifically to water it down for my kids? Sounds a bit mad to me! Occasionally there’s been wine around for some reason and we’ve allowed our children to have a little. We have not been hysterical or heavy about our abstinence. It’s just part of the picture of us as parents. And we’ve tried to show our children that there’s a huge amount of fun to be had without the need for chemical stimulation of any sort. After that, and out very stern warnings about drinking and driving, it has to be up to them. We’ll just have to see what happens.
My life is not perfect but I get a huge amount of enjoyment out of it most of the time. I can’t see how drinking alcohol would add anything. But clearly other people disagree. Why? Would someone like to explain?
This week, I want to recommend a book I’ve just read. It’s called ‘The Portal’ by Andrew Norris. It’s Sci-Fi for anyone 9 or above, I think. It’s set in our world and then it strays off in a very intriguing way. There’s a real mystery to think about and some fantastic characters. I particularly liked the dog, Timber. I’m very fond of dogs in books – I have Wulfie in ‘Piper’, Munch in ‘Ghost in the Gallery’ and Rover in ‘My Mum and the Hound from Hell’. Makes up for not having one of my own at present! Timber is very appealing and not just your average dog – you’ll have to read the book to discover more! I was gripped from the word go and the style is very light and readable – just my sort of thing!
I’m looking forward to the sequel and, as I’m very, very picky about books, that’s high praise!
For my more wrinkly readers:
I’ve just had a birthday party – about four weeks late but that’s how it goes. Life for everyone is busy, busy, busy and it took some planning to get most (I couldn’t get all) of my favourite people there. I was a bit stressed throughout the evening – was everyone enjoying themselves? Would any of these randomly assorted people argue horribly? Was the food OK and would I poison anyone? But everyone appeared to have a good time.
Quite recently, a friend who is currently on the other side of the world told me that one of the things she appreciated about me was that all my friends were mad, bad or just plain controversial. On consideration, I think she is probably right. Certainly looking round my party guests, I knew that a fair number would admit to a degree of madness or badness or both! And just plain controversial? Well, probably all of them, to some degree – that’s one of the reasons I like them.
What’s controversial about them? Well, lots of things – but the thing that struck me given the party context was that I’d told them on the invitation not to expect alcohol; if they really had to have it they should bring their own. Only two people did and one bottle was still untouched at the end of the evening. In this day and age, if 18 people gather for a party and only one bottle of wine gets drunk between them, that seems to me fairly controversial. And it wasn’t as if they sat around all evening being poker-faced and miserable. Far from it! Some of them were still here at 2.30 in the morning, playing a no holds barred board game called ‘Therapy’.
I myself have never drunk alcohol beyond a polite sip of champagne at weddings (I’ve given even that up now as I detest the stuff) and some very welcome Murphy’s Irish Stout just after my twins were born – it’s supposed to help with the breastfeeding – I’m not convinced! So why not?
a) I think I was put off by a very jolly uncle’s premature death from alcoholism and resultant sclerosis of the liver when I was young and impressionable.
b) I don’t particularly like the taste.
c) I seriously dislike the effect on other people, from the smell of their breath to the disturbance in their behaviour, and can see no attraction in inflicting that on myself.
d) I don’t need artificial stimulants to enjoy myself.
What I don’t understand is why other people seem to like alcohol so much and actively seek its effects. I can just about understand the desire to loosen inhibitions a little - the ‘Dutch courage’ argument - but to actively seek drunkenness and oblivion seems to me utterly bizarre. Life is short. Why, unless you are miserable, would you want to deliberately miss any of it – or not be able to remember it, at least? Why do I hear so many young people saying, ‘Yeh – it was great! I couldn’t remember a thing about it next morning!’ Why is that great? And what is the point of spending time with people who are operating in a space divorced from reality? What I enjoy about spending time with other people is finding out what they think, how they tick, sharing views and experiences. I want to discover the ‘real’ them, in as much as that is ever possible. Once it is clouded by alcohol, I lose interest. The person I am talking to is no longer ‘real’. He or she becomes less inhibited, more out-spoken, louder, less witty and less sharp-brained. Often he or she will become boringly loquacious and repetitive, become too socially dominant and not know when or where to stop. And it takes remarkably little alcohol to see all these effects. So few people drink no alcohol on social occasions that I’m not sure how aware people are of all this. A solution, of course, is to join in – I prefer not to.
I probably sound like a prig and kill-joy but, without alcohol, I can still have a fantastic time. I get so high dancing that I worry what would happen if I added alcohol to the mix! And I don’t think anyone was complaining at my party the other night! The fact is that we do have an alcohol problem in this country – and I’m blessed if I can see why. What are people getting out of it? When I was doing my MA a couple of years ago, I used the university swimming pool. Time and again I would hear students in the changing rooms discussing their plans to get drunk. Going out for a drink, going to a party and, if you’re a bit shy, lubricating things a bit, I can just about understand – but actually planning to go out and get drunk? What’s that about? Knowing in advance of your birthday that the day after you won’t be doing anything because you’ll be ‘recovering’ – where’s the fun in that? And isn’t anyone ever worried about what they might do while they’re so out of it? Like get pregnant, pick up an STD, get into a fight, walk under some traffic, fall in the river and drown (like one of my ancestors did)? What about the financial cost? What about the long term health risks? What about the calories? What, could someone please explain, are the advantages? Are people so bored and miserable that they really have to have alcohol to add some sparkle? If so, how deeply, deeply sad.
My own children, I have never seen drunk. That doesn’t mean they haven’t been or that we haven’t had parties where alcohol has flowed liberally – mostly over the kitchen floor, from what I can remember. There was a great moment when someone filled my large Le Creuset with vomit, I recall. My children seem to hide their excesses from me. Not that I rant and rave about alcohol, except here. I just very evidently don’t do alcohol and neither does their dad – so maybe they feel uncomfortable about their own consumption – I don’t know. Over the years, the issue of how you introduce alcohol into a young person’s life in a way that is reasonable and sensible has troubled me. We all talk about the French introducing it from an early age and diluting it. Sounds like an excellent plan if you’re regular wine drinkers – not that I think I know anyone who has actually done it. But was I supposed to buy wine specifically to water it down for my kids? Sounds a bit mad to me! Occasionally there’s been wine around for some reason and we’ve allowed our children to have a little. We have not been hysterical or heavy about our abstinence. It’s just part of the picture of us as parents. And we’ve tried to show our children that there’s a huge amount of fun to be had without the need for chemical stimulation of any sort. After that, and out very stern warnings about drinking and driving, it has to be up to them. We’ll just have to see what happens.
My life is not perfect but I get a huge amount of enjoyment out of it most of the time. I can’t see how drinking alcohol would add anything. But clearly other people disagree. Why? Would someone like to explain?
Wednesday 21 November 2007
Ranting about Guilt and the 21st century woman
For my younger readers:
I’m writing about women tonight – and I suspect if any younger people are reading this blog, then they’ll be girls – so you may like to read the section for older people to see what it’s like to be a 21st century woman and make your plans to avoid falling into the same habits and traps!
I hope that my character, Kate, who is very thoughtful and questioning, manages to wend her way through life without feeling burdened by the feelings I’m about to write about! But right now she’s just a teenager and her journal goes on at http://katelofthouse.blogspot.com/ Please visit and comment or vote on what should happen to her next – and then I can write the next instalment!
For my more wrinkly readers:
One of my friends has sent me a couple of very thoughtful and challenging e-mails as a result of reading my blog – one I’ve posted. This is an extract from the second:
‘Why is one compelled to do all this campaigning etc; what is your own need in it – is it truly altruistic or to fulfil a sense of inadequacy or guilt?’
Well, I don’t actually believe in altruism in the very strict sense. I don’t think anyone does anything out of a clear and unclouded motivation to care for others. Something in what we do is satisfying something in ourselves. I’ve been accused of cynicism for that view in the past – but I don’t feel like a cynical person. I feel optimistic and trusting. I suppose when I’m ranting about Christians taking more action, what I’m hoping is that they will have a desire to do so – and that will drive them on. Everyone will be happier as a result – the people they’ve helped and they themselves for their desire to act or to campaign will have been fulfilled. And I see nothing wrong in that. It’s not that I’m arguing that it is good for the soul to suffer! I want people to be happy in their ‘good works’.
But guilt. Now there’s a thing. And it seems to be very much a women’s thing. I’ve had several friends talk to me about their feelings of guilt since I posted the ‘social action’ blog. One said she felt guilty all the time about everything – and it seems to me, on a bad day, that that is exactly what it can be like. On bad days, I feel inadequate and guilty because I’m not holding down a ‘proper’ job. I don’t hit the workplace at 9am and return at 5.30, five days a week. The fact that I start ‘work’ of some sort from the moment I’m up and only stop for short breaks until late in the evening, that I teach on Thursday and Friday nights, Saturday mornings and some Saturday afternoons and that others are used up by author events, cuts no mustard. On a bad day, I feel guilty for ‘swanning around’, combining writing, teaching youth theatre, training to be a counsellor and being a mother. It’s not good enough. I’m not earning the sort of salary that an Oxford graduate ‘ought’ to be earning! And I’m certainly not doing enough campaigning, voluntary work, enough for my church or my children or – God help him – my husband! On a bad day, the support I give to my friends is too self-indulgent – friendship is a luxury and I can’t enjoy in it too much. And writing a blog – dear heaven! What’s that about? Just vainglory and narcissism! Even on a good day, I can’t watch a DVD (I don’t currently watch any TV – anyone want to recommend anything?) without a pile of ironing to do. That’s not just about the guilt of unproductive leisure time though – it’s about the fact that I don’t feel fully engaged by ‘just’ watching.
It seems to me that I’m not alone in this sort of negative thinking. Mothers who go back to work when their babies are little feel guilty for leaving them. No amount of ‘quality time’ quite makes them feel OK about it. Mothers who stay at home full-time (an increasingly rare breed, frequently for financial reasons) feel guilty for squandering their education or not contributing financially or just not quite playing the 21st century woman game.
A friend recently told me how very taken for granted she felt. Someone else talked of how she recalled her mother standing in the kitchen and weeping because ‘they treat this house like a hotel’. It’s bizarre. Modern women, it seems to me, run themselves ragged wearing endless different hats – workplace woman, mother, lover, chauffeur, nurse, gardener, cleaner, cook, laundry maid, mechanic, secretary – the list is endless. But instead of feeling fulfilled, empowered and celebrated (which they should – just look at that list – what are they not doing?), they feel guilty and taken for granted.
I’m lucky that I don’t feel taken for granted by my husband and children. Reason? Well, on the quiet, I feel I do a pretty minimal job as a mother and wife. Frankly, I’m a bit of a slob. Secretly, (until now!) I see a shiny house as self-indulgent. It doesn’t need to be ultra clean and it certainly doesn’t need too much money spent on it. Adequately furnished and reasonably hygienic is enough. And I have always made my children help with chores every day – from the moment they could drop their toys in a toybox. They don’t always do them and it still doesn’t come easy but I think I have made my point over the years, even though the chores have been tied in with rewards and pocket money. I don’t think they’re grateful for all that I do for them – but I don’t feel taken for granted. Maybe the fact that I have made it very clear for a long time that my work is also a priority for me has helped. Who knows? My children don’t seem to assume that I’ll be able to give them a lift at the drop of a hat or get the right shirt washed for the right day! My husband, poor man, assumes nothing – though he does prefer it when I cook in the evening! And – hallelujah – I don’t feel guilty about that, even on a bad day.
And not feeling guilty is so very liberating. On a good day, the rest of the guilt doesn’t kick in either – I’m living a flexible lifestyle which suits my needs, those of my family and those members of the community that need my support. My charitable giving is well-organised and I do as much campaigning and voluntary work as I can. My leisure time is reasonable and spent in a worthwhile way! In fact, I deserve a halo. Oops – no – that’s pride and we don’t want to go down that guilty spiral….
But guilt and feeling taken for granted – they’re both live issues for so many of us. And someone correct me if I’m wrong but they don’t seem so big for men. All down to hormones and fluctuations in our perception of reality? Or is the 21st Century woman really getting a bum deal?
I’m writing about women tonight – and I suspect if any younger people are reading this blog, then they’ll be girls – so you may like to read the section for older people to see what it’s like to be a 21st century woman and make your plans to avoid falling into the same habits and traps!
I hope that my character, Kate, who is very thoughtful and questioning, manages to wend her way through life without feeling burdened by the feelings I’m about to write about! But right now she’s just a teenager and her journal goes on at http://katelofthouse.blogspot.com/ Please visit and comment or vote on what should happen to her next – and then I can write the next instalment!
For my more wrinkly readers:
One of my friends has sent me a couple of very thoughtful and challenging e-mails as a result of reading my blog – one I’ve posted. This is an extract from the second:
‘Why is one compelled to do all this campaigning etc; what is your own need in it – is it truly altruistic or to fulfil a sense of inadequacy or guilt?’
Well, I don’t actually believe in altruism in the very strict sense. I don’t think anyone does anything out of a clear and unclouded motivation to care for others. Something in what we do is satisfying something in ourselves. I’ve been accused of cynicism for that view in the past – but I don’t feel like a cynical person. I feel optimistic and trusting. I suppose when I’m ranting about Christians taking more action, what I’m hoping is that they will have a desire to do so – and that will drive them on. Everyone will be happier as a result – the people they’ve helped and they themselves for their desire to act or to campaign will have been fulfilled. And I see nothing wrong in that. It’s not that I’m arguing that it is good for the soul to suffer! I want people to be happy in their ‘good works’.
But guilt. Now there’s a thing. And it seems to be very much a women’s thing. I’ve had several friends talk to me about their feelings of guilt since I posted the ‘social action’ blog. One said she felt guilty all the time about everything – and it seems to me, on a bad day, that that is exactly what it can be like. On bad days, I feel inadequate and guilty because I’m not holding down a ‘proper’ job. I don’t hit the workplace at 9am and return at 5.30, five days a week. The fact that I start ‘work’ of some sort from the moment I’m up and only stop for short breaks until late in the evening, that I teach on Thursday and Friday nights, Saturday mornings and some Saturday afternoons and that others are used up by author events, cuts no mustard. On a bad day, I feel guilty for ‘swanning around’, combining writing, teaching youth theatre, training to be a counsellor and being a mother. It’s not good enough. I’m not earning the sort of salary that an Oxford graduate ‘ought’ to be earning! And I’m certainly not doing enough campaigning, voluntary work, enough for my church or my children or – God help him – my husband! On a bad day, the support I give to my friends is too self-indulgent – friendship is a luxury and I can’t enjoy in it too much. And writing a blog – dear heaven! What’s that about? Just vainglory and narcissism! Even on a good day, I can’t watch a DVD (I don’t currently watch any TV – anyone want to recommend anything?) without a pile of ironing to do. That’s not just about the guilt of unproductive leisure time though – it’s about the fact that I don’t feel fully engaged by ‘just’ watching.
It seems to me that I’m not alone in this sort of negative thinking. Mothers who go back to work when their babies are little feel guilty for leaving them. No amount of ‘quality time’ quite makes them feel OK about it. Mothers who stay at home full-time (an increasingly rare breed, frequently for financial reasons) feel guilty for squandering their education or not contributing financially or just not quite playing the 21st century woman game.
A friend recently told me how very taken for granted she felt. Someone else talked of how she recalled her mother standing in the kitchen and weeping because ‘they treat this house like a hotel’. It’s bizarre. Modern women, it seems to me, run themselves ragged wearing endless different hats – workplace woman, mother, lover, chauffeur, nurse, gardener, cleaner, cook, laundry maid, mechanic, secretary – the list is endless. But instead of feeling fulfilled, empowered and celebrated (which they should – just look at that list – what are they not doing?), they feel guilty and taken for granted.
I’m lucky that I don’t feel taken for granted by my husband and children. Reason? Well, on the quiet, I feel I do a pretty minimal job as a mother and wife. Frankly, I’m a bit of a slob. Secretly, (until now!) I see a shiny house as self-indulgent. It doesn’t need to be ultra clean and it certainly doesn’t need too much money spent on it. Adequately furnished and reasonably hygienic is enough. And I have always made my children help with chores every day – from the moment they could drop their toys in a toybox. They don’t always do them and it still doesn’t come easy but I think I have made my point over the years, even though the chores have been tied in with rewards and pocket money. I don’t think they’re grateful for all that I do for them – but I don’t feel taken for granted. Maybe the fact that I have made it very clear for a long time that my work is also a priority for me has helped. Who knows? My children don’t seem to assume that I’ll be able to give them a lift at the drop of a hat or get the right shirt washed for the right day! My husband, poor man, assumes nothing – though he does prefer it when I cook in the evening! And – hallelujah – I don’t feel guilty about that, even on a bad day.
And not feeling guilty is so very liberating. On a good day, the rest of the guilt doesn’t kick in either – I’m living a flexible lifestyle which suits my needs, those of my family and those members of the community that need my support. My charitable giving is well-organised and I do as much campaigning and voluntary work as I can. My leisure time is reasonable and spent in a worthwhile way! In fact, I deserve a halo. Oops – no – that’s pride and we don’t want to go down that guilty spiral….
But guilt and feeling taken for granted – they’re both live issues for so many of us. And someone correct me if I’m wrong but they don’t seem so big for men. All down to hormones and fluctuations in our perception of reality? Or is the 21st Century woman really getting a bum deal?
Thursday 15 November 2007
Meg muses on Remembrance Day
For my younger readers:
I haven't written a book about war. Maybe one day I will as I feel very strongly about it. In the meanwhile you may like to try:
'Peaceweavers' by Julia Jarman
'Private Peaceful' by Michael Morpurgo
'When Hitler Stole Pink Rabbit' by Judith Kerr
'Coming Home' by Michelle Magorian
'The Diary of Anne Frank' by Anne Frank
'A Little Piece of Ground' by Elizabeth Laird
They're all very good but the last is my favourite. If you don't know much about the Palestine/Israel conflict, it's a good place to start. Very informative and very moving.
And for my more wrinkly readers:
I struggle with Remembrance Day. Although I respect the desire and need to remember all those who have fallen in defence of this country, I find myself with mixed feelings about it. These days, I choose to where a White Poppy http://www.whitepoppy.org.uk/ rather than a red one, a sign that, although I respect all those who have died for my freedom, I, as a pacifist, do not support the concept of war. It could be argued that nor do all those who wear a Red Poppy but by doing so they support the British Legion - and I am not sure I can do that. Although I know they do admirable work for war veterans and the bereaved, I cannot be comfortable with the Remembrance Day parades they organise, which with their bracing marching, Last Post and display of medals, cast an air of militarism over the proceedings. I am very organised in my giving, selecting charities to support each year, thus avoiding feeling guilty if I choose not to give to a tin rattler (though they often get something as I've done enough tin rattling myself to know how disheartening it can be) - and I'm afraid the British Legion doesn't match my criteria. So it has to be a White Poppy for me.
I am the daughter of someone who refused to collect his war medals. Even though he was called up when he was 17 and served in the Air Force for the whole of WW2 he didn't think he'd done anything to be proud of - he just did what he had to do and hated it. He never talked about it and my mother warned me not to ask. I do think he did something to be proud of though. He was in the advance party that went into Belsen at the end of the war. He spent a long time burying the dead. I don't suppose they give medals for that sort of thing and I don't suppose he would have wanted one anyway. But he got out his poppy and went to church on Remembrance Day. I remember his face, tight-lipped and distant. If I have mixed feelings about it, I'm sure his were a thousand times more so.
As a practising Christian, I find Remembrance Day in church very odd. We follow the teachings of the Prince of Peace. If we grovelled before him, begging for forgiveness for the horror we have caused and continue to cause, I would join in. If we held an all night prayer vigil, intercessing for war-torn regions and foreign policy makers, I would go. What we do is very different. We create something beautiful, poignant and poetic, with a dash of militarism, more so in some churches than others, and speak of ultimate sacrifice and years not condemning, when in fact we are talking about teenagers who were slaughtered on masse, riddled with bullets on barbed wire, eaten alive by gangrene, choked to death on mustard gas, burnt alive on oil-slicked seas, driven mad by shell-shock or simply shot if they couldn't stand it any longer. And that was just one war and only scratching the surface.
I have great respect for the pastor of the church I attend and know that he puts huge effort into the Remembrance Day service, making it dignified and moving and a comforting tribute for those who lost loved ones. I came home in tears on Sunday and so I should. But it seems that most people manage to retain the stiff upper lip throughout. Is all we're managing to do remembrance. Because if so, why are we bothering? I have been bereaved several times and I have no problem remembering that. I don't need a special day to do it on. Aren't we told that Remembrance Day is about it 'never happening again'. And if that's it's function, it's singularly useless. Because it does happen. It's happening now. And it seems to me that it will do so again and again and again. Because instead of facing the horror, we romanticise it; instead of acknowledging the utter degredation, we give it dignity.
So perhaps we should stop being dignified and quiet and romantic about it; perhaps we should be brash and loud and realistic. Instead of two minutes of silence, we could have two minutes of screaming. And if our throats are sore afterwards, maybe then we will remember the agony war causes. And if we have a sleepless night praying, then maybe we will remember those who can't sleep because they are being bombed. And if, instead of standing in silence, we kneel and abase ourselves, begging forgiveness and the will to avoid more, maybe we will remember those humiliated by torturers. And then maybe, instead of remembering for one day once a year, we will be active peacemakers on every day of every year. And then, at last, we won't need Remembrance Day any more.
I haven't written a book about war. Maybe one day I will as I feel very strongly about it. In the meanwhile you may like to try:
'Peaceweavers' by Julia Jarman
'Private Peaceful' by Michael Morpurgo
'When Hitler Stole Pink Rabbit' by Judith Kerr
'Coming Home' by Michelle Magorian
'The Diary of Anne Frank' by Anne Frank
'A Little Piece of Ground' by Elizabeth Laird
They're all very good but the last is my favourite. If you don't know much about the Palestine/Israel conflict, it's a good place to start. Very informative and very moving.
And for my more wrinkly readers:
I struggle with Remembrance Day. Although I respect the desire and need to remember all those who have fallen in defence of this country, I find myself with mixed feelings about it. These days, I choose to where a White Poppy http://www.whitepoppy.org.uk/ rather than a red one, a sign that, although I respect all those who have died for my freedom, I, as a pacifist, do not support the concept of war. It could be argued that nor do all those who wear a Red Poppy but by doing so they support the British Legion - and I am not sure I can do that. Although I know they do admirable work for war veterans and the bereaved, I cannot be comfortable with the Remembrance Day parades they organise, which with their bracing marching, Last Post and display of medals, cast an air of militarism over the proceedings. I am very organised in my giving, selecting charities to support each year, thus avoiding feeling guilty if I choose not to give to a tin rattler (though they often get something as I've done enough tin rattling myself to know how disheartening it can be) - and I'm afraid the British Legion doesn't match my criteria. So it has to be a White Poppy for me.
I am the daughter of someone who refused to collect his war medals. Even though he was called up when he was 17 and served in the Air Force for the whole of WW2 he didn't think he'd done anything to be proud of - he just did what he had to do and hated it. He never talked about it and my mother warned me not to ask. I do think he did something to be proud of though. He was in the advance party that went into Belsen at the end of the war. He spent a long time burying the dead. I don't suppose they give medals for that sort of thing and I don't suppose he would have wanted one anyway. But he got out his poppy and went to church on Remembrance Day. I remember his face, tight-lipped and distant. If I have mixed feelings about it, I'm sure his were a thousand times more so.
As a practising Christian, I find Remembrance Day in church very odd. We follow the teachings of the Prince of Peace. If we grovelled before him, begging for forgiveness for the horror we have caused and continue to cause, I would join in. If we held an all night prayer vigil, intercessing for war-torn regions and foreign policy makers, I would go. What we do is very different. We create something beautiful, poignant and poetic, with a dash of militarism, more so in some churches than others, and speak of ultimate sacrifice and years not condemning, when in fact we are talking about teenagers who were slaughtered on masse, riddled with bullets on barbed wire, eaten alive by gangrene, choked to death on mustard gas, burnt alive on oil-slicked seas, driven mad by shell-shock or simply shot if they couldn't stand it any longer. And that was just one war and only scratching the surface.
I have great respect for the pastor of the church I attend and know that he puts huge effort into the Remembrance Day service, making it dignified and moving and a comforting tribute for those who lost loved ones. I came home in tears on Sunday and so I should. But it seems that most people manage to retain the stiff upper lip throughout. Is all we're managing to do remembrance. Because if so, why are we bothering? I have been bereaved several times and I have no problem remembering that. I don't need a special day to do it on. Aren't we told that Remembrance Day is about it 'never happening again'. And if that's it's function, it's singularly useless. Because it does happen. It's happening now. And it seems to me that it will do so again and again and again. Because instead of facing the horror, we romanticise it; instead of acknowledging the utter degredation, we give it dignity.
So perhaps we should stop being dignified and quiet and romantic about it; perhaps we should be brash and loud and realistic. Instead of two minutes of silence, we could have two minutes of screaming. And if our throats are sore afterwards, maybe then we will remember the agony war causes. And if we have a sleepless night praying, then maybe we will remember those who can't sleep because they are being bombed. And if, instead of standing in silence, we kneel and abase ourselves, begging forgiveness and the will to avoid more, maybe we will remember those humiliated by torturers. And then maybe, instead of remembering for one day once a year, we will be active peacemakers on every day of every year. And then, at last, we won't need Remembrance Day any more.
Wednesday 7 November 2007
Meg muses on 'Shibboleth' at Tate Modern
First, I must apologise to Claire, from my creative writing class, who will be expecting a very different post from this one! Claire, the one we started on Saturday will appear in a couple of weeks time, OK? Today, I want to write something different - more of a celebratory rant, for once!
For my younger readers:
It's been an exciting week for me! 'Piper' was launched on Friday and I had a great welcome at Myton School in Warwick for my launch event. What a fantastic library you have - and such a lovely librarian too! I hope you appreciate them both! Those of you who bought copies of 'Fur' and 'Piper', I hope you're enjoying them. Do let me know what you think via my web-site.
Yesterday, I was at the lovely Newington Library in Southwark, London, launching the Orange Chatterbooks scheme there. It's a library that's clearly very well used. I was talking to the assistant manager about issues facing libraries today. Some members of the government feel libraries should return to only providing books. Nowadays, of course, they provide computer and Internet access, DVDs, CDs and a whole range of other activities. What do you think? Do you use your local library and if so, what for? Maybe you should let your MP know what you think or even tell Al Aynsley-Green, the first ever Children's Commissioner. I heard him speak yesterday and he really wants to know what children and young people think about anything and everything. That's his job. So do tell him. You can contact him via http://www.11million.org.uk/ Why 11 million? Because there are 11 million kids in the UK.
For my more wrinkly readers:
Yesterday was a jewel of a day so I want to celebrate it! I don't always rant because I am angry, or indeed, weighed down by grief! I have, I would like to say, been very moved by the posts and e-mails in response to last week's blog. Blogging has been a steep and, at times, painful learning curve but last week's effort was therapeutic for me and has touched several people, so the whole experiment has begun to feel very worthwhile.
So...yesterday! I was booked to launch the Orange Chatterbooks scheme for Southwark libraries in the morning, which is a delightful initiative to create reading groups for children. As someone who runs a children's book group and who is a member of two adult groups, I am all in favour of the project - so it was a bit disappointing when, having arrived bright and early at Elephant and Castle at 9am, there were no children in sight at quarter to ten! Sure enough, there had been a mix-up and the first group didn't arrive - which meant I got taken out for tea and croissants by the charming assistant manager - who turned out to be published poet, David Penn. He kept that very quiet for a remarkably long time! So I shall get paid for a very pleasant hour chatting to him! Can't be bad! Then, when the children finally arrived, they were delightful. Newington Library serves the biggest inner city estate in the country, an area designated for urgent renewal, with some serious social problems - but the years 5s I was working with were one of the most engaged, lively and interesting groups I have ever met. They were a hugely appreciative audience - they laughed at my jokes, for goodness sake! - and their questions were unusual and searching. What a joy!
Then, once I'd done my usual exit routine of forgetting half my equipment and having to go back for it (any author event puts me on a giddy high which makes me quite incompetent for at least an hour), I had until 8pm to spend in London, as the wonderful Chiltern Railways' 'Just 15' cheap ticket deal does restrict your time of travel. I had plenty of work to do so spent a large part of the time in the cafe of the Salvation Army's HQ which is on the St Paul's side of the Millenium Bridge. It's a great, very reasonable cafe in a stunning new building that's very notable for its architecture and all in a good cause - go there! But I also did two other very special things.
By chance, as I was passing St Paul's, I noticed that there was a panel discussion that evening, the final one of a series on childhood, organised by The Children's Society. It looked interesting so I thought I would go. I was somewhat stunned to find the panel consisted of The Archbishop of Canterbury, Al Aynsley-Green , the children's commissioner, Camilla Batmanghelidjh and Richard Leyard. Though I felt some of it was covering old ground, it was nevertheless, a very interesting evening. Some things stood out, however: Al pointing out that in this country you can be held criminally responsible at the age of ten but you are not old enough to own a dog and Camilla explaining that research has shown that the more interested you are in the welfare of other people, the happier you are. Thoughts to ponder on.........
My other special thing was to go to the Tate Modern to re-visit the wonderful giant spider, originally displayed inside and now on the South Bank, framing, as you look back across the river, the dome of St Paul's - and to see, of course, Shibboleth, the mind-bending crack that currently runs the length of the Turbine Hall. It is astonishing - it draws you in, almost mesmerising you into following it and peering into its ever varying depths. Children and young people stood along its edges, spanning it with hands and feet, jumping it, feeling it. A toddler staggered up the slope alongside it, fascinated. For me, there wasn't much that struck me about it at the time - I was just enjoying it - but there has been much that has done so since. I heard that the artist sees it as representing the divide between the rich and the poor of this world. For me, it could represent any division that cannot be entirely healed - even when it is filled in, as it will be eventually, Shibboleth will leave its mark on the floor. But divisions can be bridged. Hands can be held across the gash.
We have in our society, of course, many divisions - but also many, many hands held out and many, many bridges. Libraries and librarians, for example. If we allow them to shrink and die, where is the bridge for kids who have no books or computer at home into the joyful knowledge that books and the Internet provide for so many of us? What a wonderfully generous and welcoming hand held out the Orange Chatterbooks scheme is! Let's celebrate that! The Children's Society, with their investigation into 'A Good Childhood?', is trying to breach the divide between the old and the young, to hold out helping hands to thousands of children wounded by division of one sort or another. Al Aynsley-Green, with his 11 million web-site and his enthusiasm for his new role, is trying to make a bridge between government policy makers and the young people who need to inform them, to hold out a friendly hand to any young person who wants to talk to him. All the panellists saw a gulf of fear lying between older people in our society and younger people and wanted to bridge it with compassion and love.
We can all do it, I think. Build bridges where needed. Hold out helping hands. I'll be back to my social action rant if I'm not careful, but I'm thinking more personally this time. Anyone out there who's reading this and has thrown me a rope bridge or held out a helping hand, thank you. It was appreciated.
A final image from my jewel of a day - my walk in the dark, surrounded by the blazing lights of London, reflected and softened in the river below me as I, appropriately enough, crossed the Millennium Bridge.
For my younger readers:
It's been an exciting week for me! 'Piper' was launched on Friday and I had a great welcome at Myton School in Warwick for my launch event. What a fantastic library you have - and such a lovely librarian too! I hope you appreciate them both! Those of you who bought copies of 'Fur' and 'Piper', I hope you're enjoying them. Do let me know what you think via my web-site.
Yesterday, I was at the lovely Newington Library in Southwark, London, launching the Orange Chatterbooks scheme there. It's a library that's clearly very well used. I was talking to the assistant manager about issues facing libraries today. Some members of the government feel libraries should return to only providing books. Nowadays, of course, they provide computer and Internet access, DVDs, CDs and a whole range of other activities. What do you think? Do you use your local library and if so, what for? Maybe you should let your MP know what you think or even tell Al Aynsley-Green, the first ever Children's Commissioner. I heard him speak yesterday and he really wants to know what children and young people think about anything and everything. That's his job. So do tell him. You can contact him via http://www.11million.org.uk/ Why 11 million? Because there are 11 million kids in the UK.
For my more wrinkly readers:
Yesterday was a jewel of a day so I want to celebrate it! I don't always rant because I am angry, or indeed, weighed down by grief! I have, I would like to say, been very moved by the posts and e-mails in response to last week's blog. Blogging has been a steep and, at times, painful learning curve but last week's effort was therapeutic for me and has touched several people, so the whole experiment has begun to feel very worthwhile.
So...yesterday! I was booked to launch the Orange Chatterbooks scheme for Southwark libraries in the morning, which is a delightful initiative to create reading groups for children. As someone who runs a children's book group and who is a member of two adult groups, I am all in favour of the project - so it was a bit disappointing when, having arrived bright and early at Elephant and Castle at 9am, there were no children in sight at quarter to ten! Sure enough, there had been a mix-up and the first group didn't arrive - which meant I got taken out for tea and croissants by the charming assistant manager - who turned out to be published poet, David Penn. He kept that very quiet for a remarkably long time! So I shall get paid for a very pleasant hour chatting to him! Can't be bad! Then, when the children finally arrived, they were delightful. Newington Library serves the biggest inner city estate in the country, an area designated for urgent renewal, with some serious social problems - but the years 5s I was working with were one of the most engaged, lively and interesting groups I have ever met. They were a hugely appreciative audience - they laughed at my jokes, for goodness sake! - and their questions were unusual and searching. What a joy!
Then, once I'd done my usual exit routine of forgetting half my equipment and having to go back for it (any author event puts me on a giddy high which makes me quite incompetent for at least an hour), I had until 8pm to spend in London, as the wonderful Chiltern Railways' 'Just 15' cheap ticket deal does restrict your time of travel. I had plenty of work to do so spent a large part of the time in the cafe of the Salvation Army's HQ which is on the St Paul's side of the Millenium Bridge. It's a great, very reasonable cafe in a stunning new building that's very notable for its architecture and all in a good cause - go there! But I also did two other very special things.
By chance, as I was passing St Paul's, I noticed that there was a panel discussion that evening, the final one of a series on childhood, organised by The Children's Society. It looked interesting so I thought I would go. I was somewhat stunned to find the panel consisted of The Archbishop of Canterbury, Al Aynsley-Green , the children's commissioner, Camilla Batmanghelidjh and Richard Leyard. Though I felt some of it was covering old ground, it was nevertheless, a very interesting evening. Some things stood out, however: Al pointing out that in this country you can be held criminally responsible at the age of ten but you are not old enough to own a dog and Camilla explaining that research has shown that the more interested you are in the welfare of other people, the happier you are. Thoughts to ponder on.........
My other special thing was to go to the Tate Modern to re-visit the wonderful giant spider, originally displayed inside and now on the South Bank, framing, as you look back across the river, the dome of St Paul's - and to see, of course, Shibboleth, the mind-bending crack that currently runs the length of the Turbine Hall. It is astonishing - it draws you in, almost mesmerising you into following it and peering into its ever varying depths. Children and young people stood along its edges, spanning it with hands and feet, jumping it, feeling it. A toddler staggered up the slope alongside it, fascinated. For me, there wasn't much that struck me about it at the time - I was just enjoying it - but there has been much that has done so since. I heard that the artist sees it as representing the divide between the rich and the poor of this world. For me, it could represent any division that cannot be entirely healed - even when it is filled in, as it will be eventually, Shibboleth will leave its mark on the floor. But divisions can be bridged. Hands can be held across the gash.
We have in our society, of course, many divisions - but also many, many hands held out and many, many bridges. Libraries and librarians, for example. If we allow them to shrink and die, where is the bridge for kids who have no books or computer at home into the joyful knowledge that books and the Internet provide for so many of us? What a wonderfully generous and welcoming hand held out the Orange Chatterbooks scheme is! Let's celebrate that! The Children's Society, with their investigation into 'A Good Childhood?', is trying to breach the divide between the old and the young, to hold out helping hands to thousands of children wounded by division of one sort or another. Al Aynsley-Green, with his 11 million web-site and his enthusiasm for his new role, is trying to make a bridge between government policy makers and the young people who need to inform them, to hold out a friendly hand to any young person who wants to talk to him. All the panellists saw a gulf of fear lying between older people in our society and younger people and wanted to bridge it with compassion and love.
We can all do it, I think. Build bridges where needed. Hold out helping hands. I'll be back to my social action rant if I'm not careful, but I'm thinking more personally this time. Anyone out there who's reading this and has thrown me a rope bridge or held out a helping hand, thank you. It was appreciated.
A final image from my jewel of a day - my walk in the dark, surrounded by the blazing lights of London, reflected and softened in the river below me as I, appropriately enough, crossed the Millennium Bridge.
Wednesday 31 October 2007
Meg rants about 'Piper' and grief!
Today is the day that 'Piper' is published, a book that would never have been written but for my mother. Well, I wouldn't have been born but for my mother - but you know what I mean! Because I knew her, because I loved her, the story began to grow.
First, for my younger readers:
This bit's nothing to do with my mother - though she did have a passing interest in chocolate which I'm going to mention.If you read 'Piper' and I very much hope you do, you may be shocked by some of my ideas about what happens to the children. Sadly, most of them are based on things that actually happen to children here and now, in different parts of the world. Children go blind making carpets in India, children are kidnapped and 'traffiked' into slavery on cocoa farms or even worse situations, children have been shot down on the streets of Brazil, simply because they are homeless. This is all very depressing stuff - 'Piper' I hope, though it may disturb you, is not depressing. There is light at the end of the tunnel!If, however, you are shocked and challenged by some of this, please do what I suggest at the end and visit http://www.stopthetraffik.org/ to find out more. One of my young friends has recently written to Cadbury's to find out if they can guarantee that their cocoa beans come from farms which do not used traffiked children. Maybe you would like to do the same? Unfortunately, the variety of Fair Trade chocolate isn't huge, so it's important to keep up the pressure on the big companies to adopt Fair Trade policies More varieties of Fair Trade chocolate on our shelves has to be a good thing in every way - except for those tempted to eat too much, I suppose!
And now for the wrinklies' bit!
I didn't know when it started, that 2007 was a year I would spend weeping! Not all the time, of course, but an unprecedented amount! I spend a lot of time driving up and down the M40. This year it has felt like a vale of tears. I've wept into my swimming goggles, in showers, in the teeth of howling gales, over books, films, plays, down the phone to my friends and on my sister's, my children's and my husband's shoulders.Why? Well, it started with my dog dying in January and continued when our friend Nick died three days later - and then it just snowballed. When my friends' mothers simultaneously began to get ill and, in a couple of cases, die, it got worse. Suddenly, for whatever reason, I had begun to grieve for my parents, and in particular for my mother, Ruth Elizabeth Craven, who died 21 years ago. Suddenly, in a bizarre and completely unexpected way, I was actually feeling envy for the friends whose lives had been turned upside down by their aged parents. I had always felt lucky that I wasn't going to have to face all that; suddenly, I wanted to. I felt guilty that I wasn't able to. It felt like something one ought to do - to care for your parents when they are old and vulnerable. It felt like a rite of passsage that was denied me. Madness, I know and I don't expect sympathy. I didn't expect sympathy when I had no mother to show my babies, no built-in baby-sitter and no mother to consult about everything from sore nipples to bedtime routines - though I did feel pretty resentful about it from time to time. But suddenly I was grieving for all that too. And grieving that I hadn't been able to say goodbye. Someone told me that grief is like a pile of horse shit that is dumped on your doorstep. You don’t want it and you certainly didn’t order it – but the work of grieving is to get on and dig your way out. I have come to accept that, far from neatly ‘getting over it’, we do the digging for the rest of our lives. It’s not such bad work, actually. More interesting than you’d expect shoveling shit to be. You just need plenty of tissues for cleaning up.
One day recently, I found myself confronting the abyss I'd never dared peer into - the circumstances surrounding my mother's death. I'd always talked of my gratitude for them in the past - that, though she was actually riddled with cancer, she never knew and never had to undergo any treatment. That was because she died under the scanner. She had a heart attack. She was whisked off for a scan one morning, without my dad being there. Did she explain that she was claustrophobic? We will never know. I suspect she was too weak and brow-beaten by the suggestion that her pain was psychosomatic to say anything. And so she died alone and probably terrified. And, as I said to a friend recently, what I ought to do is go out into a field and howl. But I will never do that - so this is it instead. The howl in the field. Because someone should howl. Someone should rant and rage and keen. She would have died soon anyway - but it would have been kinder to have been surrounded by the people who loved her. Perhaps that's why, early this year, I felt compelled to organise a study day about alternative approaches to death. If you would like to know more on that topic, do contact the enormously helpful Natural Death Centre www.naturaldeath.org.uk
So what's all that got to do with 'Piper'? Well, Tanith, the central female character owes a lot to my mother. She grew out of my late appreciation that my brave, uncomplaining mum, who hid her tears in the pantry, spent most of her life in pain. As a child, I didn't give it a thought that she looked so old. She had me quite late in life - I knew that. But looking back, you could see the pain in the premature aging, in the lines of her face, the set of her jaw. In the sanctuary of childhood, she was just my mum. It is only now, now that I can't say or do anything, that I can see how her disability made her suffer.
'Piper' is, of course, very loosely based around the 'Pied Piper' story. From being very young, I felt for the child who was left behind, the child who was lame, like my mum. What happened to him? What would it be like to be the only child left when all the others had disappeared? He is quite literally isolated by his disability – as, in many ways, was my mum.
For my mum, isolation came very early. She was apparently born a healthy child – and then she lost the ability to walk. Possibly she had TB of the bone – we will never know. What we do know is that my grandmother, Elizabeth Edelston, a formidable woman, by all accounts, who had 8 older children, refused to be put off by the doctor who called her youngest daughter a ‘runt’ and told her to expect her to die. She waited until there was an opportunity to see a locum – who promptly referred my mother for treatment. Immediately, she was packed off to hospital in Heswall on the Wirral, many miles from her home on a farm, in a village outside Preston, Lancs. My mum remembered this clearly. She remembered her mother making the journey to see her once a week, spending almost the whole day on a bus. She remembered the kind nurse who called her Ruthie and tied a pink bow in her hair when her mother was coming. What she omitted to mention was that she stayed in that hospital for five years. I found that out when one of my aunts, in her eighties at the time, put herself on a train to come and help me when my four little children had chicken pox. Her eyes filled with tears at the memory of the three year old darling of the family being taken away and not returned until she was eight. I remember standing in our bathroom, not knowing what to do with the pain of hearing that. Moments like that help you understand why some people self-harm for release.
Worse was to come – the war, a bad blitz experience, major surgery on her hip, severe depressive illness and ECTs. But she was also emergency trained as a teacher, which she saw as a god-send, and she had two children, something she had thought would never happen. Throughout it all, she hung onto her faith in God. She never gave the impression that this was a straightforward, cut and dried issue. She was always wrestling, always working through issues about her faith, always trying to find out more.
I didn’t find her an easy woman to live with as I got older. It grieves me terribly that she died when I was still stuck in my adolescent relationship with her, aware more of the tension between us than the love. I would have liked to have grown through that and begun to know her on more equal terms – as I did, for a short period, with my dad. There is much of the way that she lived her life that I have rejected and I think she would have been uncomfortable with that – but there is more that is inbuilt and which I cannot discard – my own ever-questioning relationship with God for example. And these things that she taught me:
If you think you haven’t got any friends, look round for someone who needs one.
Don’t criticize something if you can’t put something better in its place.
If you don’t understand, ask. It’s amazing how often other people want to ask the same question.
Speak out. Stand up for what you believe in.
It is better to create something than to buy it.
If you work hard for something rather than it falling into your lap, you will value it more.
Enough! Too much already! ‘Piper’s’ Tanith is one tough cookie – and so was my mum. So all you people who are struggling with aged and ill parents, if you love them, make sure that they know. From an entirely selfish perspective, it will make things much easier for you later. Really, I don’t envy you and wish you well.
I mourn your loss so early, Ruth Elizabeth Craven. And I’m sorry you never really knew how much I cared. But then I didn’t know either.
First, for my younger readers:
This bit's nothing to do with my mother - though she did have a passing interest in chocolate which I'm going to mention.If you read 'Piper' and I very much hope you do, you may be shocked by some of my ideas about what happens to the children. Sadly, most of them are based on things that actually happen to children here and now, in different parts of the world. Children go blind making carpets in India, children are kidnapped and 'traffiked' into slavery on cocoa farms or even worse situations, children have been shot down on the streets of Brazil, simply because they are homeless. This is all very depressing stuff - 'Piper' I hope, though it may disturb you, is not depressing. There is light at the end of the tunnel!If, however, you are shocked and challenged by some of this, please do what I suggest at the end and visit http://www.stopthetraffik.org/ to find out more. One of my young friends has recently written to Cadbury's to find out if they can guarantee that their cocoa beans come from farms which do not used traffiked children. Maybe you would like to do the same? Unfortunately, the variety of Fair Trade chocolate isn't huge, so it's important to keep up the pressure on the big companies to adopt Fair Trade policies More varieties of Fair Trade chocolate on our shelves has to be a good thing in every way - except for those tempted to eat too much, I suppose!
And now for the wrinklies' bit!
I didn't know when it started, that 2007 was a year I would spend weeping! Not all the time, of course, but an unprecedented amount! I spend a lot of time driving up and down the M40. This year it has felt like a vale of tears. I've wept into my swimming goggles, in showers, in the teeth of howling gales, over books, films, plays, down the phone to my friends and on my sister's, my children's and my husband's shoulders.Why? Well, it started with my dog dying in January and continued when our friend Nick died three days later - and then it just snowballed. When my friends' mothers simultaneously began to get ill and, in a couple of cases, die, it got worse. Suddenly, for whatever reason, I had begun to grieve for my parents, and in particular for my mother, Ruth Elizabeth Craven, who died 21 years ago. Suddenly, in a bizarre and completely unexpected way, I was actually feeling envy for the friends whose lives had been turned upside down by their aged parents. I had always felt lucky that I wasn't going to have to face all that; suddenly, I wanted to. I felt guilty that I wasn't able to. It felt like something one ought to do - to care for your parents when they are old and vulnerable. It felt like a rite of passsage that was denied me. Madness, I know and I don't expect sympathy. I didn't expect sympathy when I had no mother to show my babies, no built-in baby-sitter and no mother to consult about everything from sore nipples to bedtime routines - though I did feel pretty resentful about it from time to time. But suddenly I was grieving for all that too. And grieving that I hadn't been able to say goodbye. Someone told me that grief is like a pile of horse shit that is dumped on your doorstep. You don’t want it and you certainly didn’t order it – but the work of grieving is to get on and dig your way out. I have come to accept that, far from neatly ‘getting over it’, we do the digging for the rest of our lives. It’s not such bad work, actually. More interesting than you’d expect shoveling shit to be. You just need plenty of tissues for cleaning up.
One day recently, I found myself confronting the abyss I'd never dared peer into - the circumstances surrounding my mother's death. I'd always talked of my gratitude for them in the past - that, though she was actually riddled with cancer, she never knew and never had to undergo any treatment. That was because she died under the scanner. She had a heart attack. She was whisked off for a scan one morning, without my dad being there. Did she explain that she was claustrophobic? We will never know. I suspect she was too weak and brow-beaten by the suggestion that her pain was psychosomatic to say anything. And so she died alone and probably terrified. And, as I said to a friend recently, what I ought to do is go out into a field and howl. But I will never do that - so this is it instead. The howl in the field. Because someone should howl. Someone should rant and rage and keen. She would have died soon anyway - but it would have been kinder to have been surrounded by the people who loved her. Perhaps that's why, early this year, I felt compelled to organise a study day about alternative approaches to death. If you would like to know more on that topic, do contact the enormously helpful Natural Death Centre www.naturaldeath.org.uk
So what's all that got to do with 'Piper'? Well, Tanith, the central female character owes a lot to my mother. She grew out of my late appreciation that my brave, uncomplaining mum, who hid her tears in the pantry, spent most of her life in pain. As a child, I didn't give it a thought that she looked so old. She had me quite late in life - I knew that. But looking back, you could see the pain in the premature aging, in the lines of her face, the set of her jaw. In the sanctuary of childhood, she was just my mum. It is only now, now that I can't say or do anything, that I can see how her disability made her suffer.
'Piper' is, of course, very loosely based around the 'Pied Piper' story. From being very young, I felt for the child who was left behind, the child who was lame, like my mum. What happened to him? What would it be like to be the only child left when all the others had disappeared? He is quite literally isolated by his disability – as, in many ways, was my mum.
For my mum, isolation came very early. She was apparently born a healthy child – and then she lost the ability to walk. Possibly she had TB of the bone – we will never know. What we do know is that my grandmother, Elizabeth Edelston, a formidable woman, by all accounts, who had 8 older children, refused to be put off by the doctor who called her youngest daughter a ‘runt’ and told her to expect her to die. She waited until there was an opportunity to see a locum – who promptly referred my mother for treatment. Immediately, she was packed off to hospital in Heswall on the Wirral, many miles from her home on a farm, in a village outside Preston, Lancs. My mum remembered this clearly. She remembered her mother making the journey to see her once a week, spending almost the whole day on a bus. She remembered the kind nurse who called her Ruthie and tied a pink bow in her hair when her mother was coming. What she omitted to mention was that she stayed in that hospital for five years. I found that out when one of my aunts, in her eighties at the time, put herself on a train to come and help me when my four little children had chicken pox. Her eyes filled with tears at the memory of the three year old darling of the family being taken away and not returned until she was eight. I remember standing in our bathroom, not knowing what to do with the pain of hearing that. Moments like that help you understand why some people self-harm for release.
Worse was to come – the war, a bad blitz experience, major surgery on her hip, severe depressive illness and ECTs. But she was also emergency trained as a teacher, which she saw as a god-send, and she had two children, something she had thought would never happen. Throughout it all, she hung onto her faith in God. She never gave the impression that this was a straightforward, cut and dried issue. She was always wrestling, always working through issues about her faith, always trying to find out more.
I didn’t find her an easy woman to live with as I got older. It grieves me terribly that she died when I was still stuck in my adolescent relationship with her, aware more of the tension between us than the love. I would have liked to have grown through that and begun to know her on more equal terms – as I did, for a short period, with my dad. There is much of the way that she lived her life that I have rejected and I think she would have been uncomfortable with that – but there is more that is inbuilt and which I cannot discard – my own ever-questioning relationship with God for example. And these things that she taught me:
If you think you haven’t got any friends, look round for someone who needs one.
Don’t criticize something if you can’t put something better in its place.
If you don’t understand, ask. It’s amazing how often other people want to ask the same question.
Speak out. Stand up for what you believe in.
It is better to create something than to buy it.
If you work hard for something rather than it falling into your lap, you will value it more.
Enough! Too much already! ‘Piper’s’ Tanith is one tough cookie – and so was my mum. So all you people who are struggling with aged and ill parents, if you love them, make sure that they know. From an entirely selfish perspective, it will make things much easier for you later. Really, I don’t envy you and wish you well.
I mourn your loss so early, Ruth Elizabeth Craven. And I’m sorry you never really knew how much I cared. But then I didn’t know either.
Wednesday 24 October 2007
Ranting about Christians and Social Action!
For the younger reader....
This week I have been interviewed by 'The Leamington Courier' because 'Piper' will be published on Oct 31st and launched at Myton School on Nov 2nd. I waffled on hopelessly - it's very difficult to talk about a book without giving too much away - but I did say it raised some difficult issues that I was concerned about - the divide between rich and poor, over-population, the way we share out food resources, slavery, damage to the environment. It probably sounded terribly heavy - so I kept stressing that it is also romantic! But I was very interested to be asked if I thought young people were interested in such questions.' Yes,' I said. 'Of course. The young people I meet are very interested - especially about the environment and human rights issues.' Last week I went on the 'Cut the Carbon' march with a daughter and her friend; only today a young chap I know, told me he had written to Cadbury's to ask about where they got their cocoa beans and whether they could guarantee the workers were treated fairly and no child labour had been involved. So I think I'm right and young people are interested. But am I? What do you think? What issues do you really care about?
For the more wrinkly reader....
Today, someone very politely suggested to me that I should hold off on any further suggestions for social action to the members of my church. Sharp intake of breath. Mad battle to stop the red mist descending. Quick rant at husband. Quick rant at daughters and their helpless friend who now probably thinks they have completely demented mother (well - it wouldn't take long for her to work that out anyway) - but no help. Will still have to rant at unsuspecting public in the hope of a good night's sleep.
I would love to say that I can see my friend's point. But I can't. There are some things where, however hard I think about them, I cannot see where the other side is coming from. This is one. I look at the world and its endless, overwhelming neediness and I think of the paltry amount of time that I can spare for addressing it and I read or hear of opportunities for us all, Christian or non-Christian, to do our little bit and I think that the least I can do is to share them with the people I know. This little bit, this small opportunity that has come to my notice, might just be the one that someone is waiting for. They hate on-line petitions, they're too busy to volunteer regularly, their work is too inflexible to go on a demo, they can barely make ends meet so certainly can't sponsor anyone - but they can spare one afternoon to rattle a tin outside Sainsbury's - or whatever!
I'm not suggesting for a moment that I'm up to speed myself on social action - I'm not. Anita Roddick's words, 'Do something, do anything, but do something!' ring accusingly in my ears far too much because, of course, I could do more. My approach is too scattergun, too random, I suspect, to be truly effective. There have been times in my life when I've put my social action eggs in one basket for a while and perhaps then they've had more chance of survival - but there are so many issues and so little time and how can we prioritise? I have been working on a novel for young teenagers for a long time now in which the central character is an eco-worrier - she's into saving toads and badgers and the environement, she's into fair trade and organic, she's a staunch supporter of Friends of the Earth, Greenpeace and Amnesty International. I'm still working on it - it's not quite right yet - but one criticism which surprised me was that no one can be worried about quite so much and perhaps I need to make my character focus on just one of two issues? Well, I'm sorry but I certainly worry about all those issues and more besides! How can you not?
But maybe that's where my friend is coming from too. It's all just too much. It's not actually that we can't worry about it all, but we don't want to. We will burn out. And in terms of the church members, they will feel so overwhelmed that they will feel unable to do anything. Or it will become like water off a duck's back; they will cease to be moved.
I can see that. I'm there, every Saturday morning, struggling to make the right decisions over buying fruit for my family. There are so many things to consider - fair trade, local, organic, price and will my kids actually eat it?! I could buy lovely locally grown Coxes apples at a reasonable price - but no one would eat them! It's exhausting and dispiriting andoverwhelming - but I don't see that I have a choice. I cannot say that I am a practising Christian and not take the care of the environment and the welfare of the world's farm workers seriously. Can I?
But I confess myself a wimp - I ceased subscribing to the 'New Internationalist' because I couldn't cope with facing a new world crisis, a new major injustice, a new issue I felt compelled to do something about, every single month! So you see, I'm getting there. I'm beginning to see my friend's point of view....
No. Hold it right there. Go any further along that route and surely, we're on the slippery slope to inertia and apathy. Helplessness. Standing by and wringing our hands. And Jesus would do that? Yeah, right.
I have a postcard pinned over my desk. It says, 'I wanted to change the world but I couldn't find a baby-sitter.' It's there because, to an extent, that's how I feel. I am too busy with the cares of my work, my family and friends, to be as socially active as I would like to be. But it's there too, to remind me that I do not want to find myself with that excuse on my lips on my deathbed. Those words should challenge us as Christians too. We want to change the world but actually we're pretty comfortable how we are. It's an effort to find a baby-sitter and, supposing we did, we'd have to get out there and do something. We wouldn't be able to be nice and cosy in our house groups and prayer meetings and worship services with our lovely Christian friends. We'd have to sacrifice some of that. I don't like the 'mission' excuse either - our chief role is to evangelise, to concern ourselves with the immortal soul. I'm with Christian Aid with their splendid slogan: 'We believe in life before death.' If I were a non-Christian, I would be far more impressed with someone who put themselves out to meet my physical or social need first and then allowed me to ask them about what motivated them, rather than someone who was only out to save my soul.
So it's no good. We can't cry, 'Enough! No more, please, God! We can't take it!' We have to relentlessly do whatever we can, whenever we can, however we can, even if, as it is in my case, pathetic and small and weedy. We cannot shut ourselves off from it. OK, we have to look after ourselves - keep ourselves healthy - not drive ourselves crazy. But I think the majority of us in British Churches, are a long way from doing that. We're not, like William Wilberforce, damaging our health because of our decades of campaigning or like Lord Shaftesbury, dying with the words, 'But there is so much more to do!' on our lips. Jesus withdrew to pray on occasion, setting us a good example in taking time out from all this. But he didn't always succeed - and he didn't then turn round and tell people to go away because he'd had enough! And I may be wildly wrong here but I'm pretty darned sure that he dealt with people's physical and social needs alongside their need for forgiveness.
This week I have been interviewed by 'The Leamington Courier' because 'Piper' will be published on Oct 31st and launched at Myton School on Nov 2nd. I waffled on hopelessly - it's very difficult to talk about a book without giving too much away - but I did say it raised some difficult issues that I was concerned about - the divide between rich and poor, over-population, the way we share out food resources, slavery, damage to the environment. It probably sounded terribly heavy - so I kept stressing that it is also romantic! But I was very interested to be asked if I thought young people were interested in such questions.' Yes,' I said. 'Of course. The young people I meet are very interested - especially about the environment and human rights issues.' Last week I went on the 'Cut the Carbon' march with a daughter and her friend; only today a young chap I know, told me he had written to Cadbury's to ask about where they got their cocoa beans and whether they could guarantee the workers were treated fairly and no child labour had been involved. So I think I'm right and young people are interested. But am I? What do you think? What issues do you really care about?
For the more wrinkly reader....
Today, someone very politely suggested to me that I should hold off on any further suggestions for social action to the members of my church. Sharp intake of breath. Mad battle to stop the red mist descending. Quick rant at husband. Quick rant at daughters and their helpless friend who now probably thinks they have completely demented mother (well - it wouldn't take long for her to work that out anyway) - but no help. Will still have to rant at unsuspecting public in the hope of a good night's sleep.
I would love to say that I can see my friend's point. But I can't. There are some things where, however hard I think about them, I cannot see where the other side is coming from. This is one. I look at the world and its endless, overwhelming neediness and I think of the paltry amount of time that I can spare for addressing it and I read or hear of opportunities for us all, Christian or non-Christian, to do our little bit and I think that the least I can do is to share them with the people I know. This little bit, this small opportunity that has come to my notice, might just be the one that someone is waiting for. They hate on-line petitions, they're too busy to volunteer regularly, their work is too inflexible to go on a demo, they can barely make ends meet so certainly can't sponsor anyone - but they can spare one afternoon to rattle a tin outside Sainsbury's - or whatever!
I'm not suggesting for a moment that I'm up to speed myself on social action - I'm not. Anita Roddick's words, 'Do something, do anything, but do something!' ring accusingly in my ears far too much because, of course, I could do more. My approach is too scattergun, too random, I suspect, to be truly effective. There have been times in my life when I've put my social action eggs in one basket for a while and perhaps then they've had more chance of survival - but there are so many issues and so little time and how can we prioritise? I have been working on a novel for young teenagers for a long time now in which the central character is an eco-worrier - she's into saving toads and badgers and the environement, she's into fair trade and organic, she's a staunch supporter of Friends of the Earth, Greenpeace and Amnesty International. I'm still working on it - it's not quite right yet - but one criticism which surprised me was that no one can be worried about quite so much and perhaps I need to make my character focus on just one of two issues? Well, I'm sorry but I certainly worry about all those issues and more besides! How can you not?
But maybe that's where my friend is coming from too. It's all just too much. It's not actually that we can't worry about it all, but we don't want to. We will burn out. And in terms of the church members, they will feel so overwhelmed that they will feel unable to do anything. Or it will become like water off a duck's back; they will cease to be moved.
I can see that. I'm there, every Saturday morning, struggling to make the right decisions over buying fruit for my family. There are so many things to consider - fair trade, local, organic, price and will my kids actually eat it?! I could buy lovely locally grown Coxes apples at a reasonable price - but no one would eat them! It's exhausting and dispiriting andoverwhelming - but I don't see that I have a choice. I cannot say that I am a practising Christian and not take the care of the environment and the welfare of the world's farm workers seriously. Can I?
But I confess myself a wimp - I ceased subscribing to the 'New Internationalist' because I couldn't cope with facing a new world crisis, a new major injustice, a new issue I felt compelled to do something about, every single month! So you see, I'm getting there. I'm beginning to see my friend's point of view....
No. Hold it right there. Go any further along that route and surely, we're on the slippery slope to inertia and apathy. Helplessness. Standing by and wringing our hands. And Jesus would do that? Yeah, right.
I have a postcard pinned over my desk. It says, 'I wanted to change the world but I couldn't find a baby-sitter.' It's there because, to an extent, that's how I feel. I am too busy with the cares of my work, my family and friends, to be as socially active as I would like to be. But it's there too, to remind me that I do not want to find myself with that excuse on my lips on my deathbed. Those words should challenge us as Christians too. We want to change the world but actually we're pretty comfortable how we are. It's an effort to find a baby-sitter and, supposing we did, we'd have to get out there and do something. We wouldn't be able to be nice and cosy in our house groups and prayer meetings and worship services with our lovely Christian friends. We'd have to sacrifice some of that. I don't like the 'mission' excuse either - our chief role is to evangelise, to concern ourselves with the immortal soul. I'm with Christian Aid with their splendid slogan: 'We believe in life before death.' If I were a non-Christian, I would be far more impressed with someone who put themselves out to meet my physical or social need first and then allowed me to ask them about what motivated them, rather than someone who was only out to save my soul.
So it's no good. We can't cry, 'Enough! No more, please, God! We can't take it!' We have to relentlessly do whatever we can, whenever we can, however we can, even if, as it is in my case, pathetic and small and weedy. We cannot shut ourselves off from it. OK, we have to look after ourselves - keep ourselves healthy - not drive ourselves crazy. But I think the majority of us in British Churches, are a long way from doing that. We're not, like William Wilberforce, damaging our health because of our decades of campaigning or like Lord Shaftesbury, dying with the words, 'But there is so much more to do!' on our lips. Jesus withdrew to pray on occasion, setting us a good example in taking time out from all this. But he didn't always succeed - and he didn't then turn round and tell people to go away because he'd had enough! And I may be wildly wrong here but I'm pretty darned sure that he dealt with people's physical and social needs alongside their need for forgiveness.
Thursday 18 October 2007
Ranting about writing for SATS!!!
It's a tricky thing this blog writing if you're a children's author - who exactly is it for? Young people who read your books or your friends, your colleagues and any other adults who may be interested? So this post, though it is still mostly me ranting, is going to be in two parts - one for younger people and one for the more wrinkly reader. Younger version first then!
This bit's for kids...
In the past few weeks, I have had an amazingly exciting time, doing lots of different things from taking part in a Swimathon in aid of local charities (nearly killed me - I am not such a good swimmer as Grace in 'Fur'!!!) to starting to teach an adult creative writing group to doing several school visits. If you're at St John Bosco School, Moor Hall School, Leigh C of E School or Pinfold St Primary, hello! I enjoyed all my visits - they were all different and I had a fantastic welcome everywhere. You have some very special teachers and are doing some very exciting writing. I am particurlarly keen to know, however, whether Caesar survived last Thursday or whether that man Brutus who was skulking around Leigh School in a toga, bumped him off in the end. Could someone let me know, please? It's a shame if Caesar died - I thought he made quite a good job of pretending to be a deputy head. The laurel wreath was a bit of a give away though.
I thoroughly enjoyed helping all of you get going with your story writing and would love to hear how you got on. What happened to all those Bad Babies? How did you get on at Pinfold Street with all your terrible boating disasters? And all the people who were working on funny stories, do send me any which you think will make me laugh!
And please tell me what you think about story writing in schools. Do you enjoy it? Is it fun? Do you prefer to have complete freedom to 'do your own thing' or do you quite like having a lot of help and input from a teacher or an author? Those of you who have used writing frames, like Boxing Clever, do you like doing that? Does it help? I'd also love to hear what you like and don't like about author visits. Authors visit schools a lot these days but we don't always get feedback on what went well and what didn't. Sometimes I leave forms for teachers to fill in but it seems a bit mean as they have so much to do anyway.
My new book, 'Piper' will be published on October 31st so I'm getting excited about doing my launch event at Myton School in Warwick - but am less happy to find a note on my desk this evening. The local newspaper wants me to get in touch about it which probably means another photo. I get teased a lot about how much my photo is in the newspaper (it was even in for the Swimathon) and I always feel really embarrassed about it. Definitely one of the worse things about being an author - but you have to go along with it for publicity. With so many new books being published all the time, you really have to do everything possible to get yours noticed! If any body has any bright ideas for publicity stunts, let me know!
This bit's for grown ups...
This week's rant then!
I love visiting primary schools! I'm always amazed by the enthusiasm and energy of the teachers and their incredibly caring, patient attitude to the children. I learn a lot from working alongside them which I often do as I frequently run workshops rather than doing the traditional author talk and reading. But I really do question what on earth is going on with year 6 SATS. Can someone explain to me why 11 year olds are expected to be able to write a coherent short story in 45 minutes, a task the majority of adults would be completely incapable of doing? Short story writing is possibly the most sophisticated and subtle type of creative writng there is - yet children, some of whom are struggling with basic literacy, are assessed under exam conditions on this task - 15 mins to plan, 30 to write. We'd like a beginning, middle and ending, please, clear establishment of characters and setting, the development of a problem which will be resolved in a suitably satisfying way, a build up of tension - oh, and we'd like to know a bit about the feelings of the characters as well. Clear use of connectives, varied sentence openings, adverbs, adjectives, similes and metaphors, please, and a suitable amount of dialogue - make sure you use speech marks and paragraphing correctly!
Right, no sweat! I did actually write one once, to see if it could be done. I just managed it but only because I didn't plan - and if an examiner could have read my handwriting, it would have been a miracle.
A school I visited recently was using a story frame technique called Boxing Clever which I could see was a reasonably effective tool for helping kids to jump through the necessary hoops - a kind of jig-saw puzzle approach to story-writing. These are the bits you need - it's up to you to fit them together. I had huge admiration for the young teacher using the system who's dynamism was utterly inspiring. He and the other teachers I met were absolutely doing the best they could for the kids they were teaching.
But what professional writer uses a story frame? OK, some write to a formula or a very strict brief but that is entirely different from a frame which suggests that these are the 'bits' you need for a story and what writers do is put them together. I certainly don't work in that way (though it might appear so from the product) and I've never met anyone who does. If professional writers don't create stories by using frames, why are kids being taught to use them? Not because they're a real tool used by real professionals but because they're a crutch invented to help kids be examined in a task which is completely inappropriate for them. Yes, allow children to write creatively in school - of course the joy of that should be nurtured. But the only reason they're being examined at all is because it's politically expedient - so why set such a sophisticated literary task that teachers and educationalists are having to come up with task specific tools to get their kids through it? If you have to test their literacy at all (and, I being an ex-home-educator and raving educational liberal, would argue that you shouldn't), for heavens sake, set them a simple, age appropriate literacy task - not something that would stretch a literary genius! Then they might have some time left over for having some fun writing creatively and their teachers (the saints!) would have one less hugely burdensome target to worry about.
Any politicians who'd like to send me their short stories that they've written on a random topic in 45 minutes, are welcome to do so. If I think they're good enough (see the criteria above - oh, and make sure your opening is stunning too so you immediately grab my interest), then I will publish them on my web-site. Meanwhile, I'll carry on helping teachers and children have fun writing creatively - if it helps with the SATS, that's a bonus! Meg
This bit's for kids...
In the past few weeks, I have had an amazingly exciting time, doing lots of different things from taking part in a Swimathon in aid of local charities (nearly killed me - I am not such a good swimmer as Grace in 'Fur'!!!) to starting to teach an adult creative writing group to doing several school visits. If you're at St John Bosco School, Moor Hall School, Leigh C of E School or Pinfold St Primary, hello! I enjoyed all my visits - they were all different and I had a fantastic welcome everywhere. You have some very special teachers and are doing some very exciting writing. I am particurlarly keen to know, however, whether Caesar survived last Thursday or whether that man Brutus who was skulking around Leigh School in a toga, bumped him off in the end. Could someone let me know, please? It's a shame if Caesar died - I thought he made quite a good job of pretending to be a deputy head. The laurel wreath was a bit of a give away though.
I thoroughly enjoyed helping all of you get going with your story writing and would love to hear how you got on. What happened to all those Bad Babies? How did you get on at Pinfold Street with all your terrible boating disasters? And all the people who were working on funny stories, do send me any which you think will make me laugh!
And please tell me what you think about story writing in schools. Do you enjoy it? Is it fun? Do you prefer to have complete freedom to 'do your own thing' or do you quite like having a lot of help and input from a teacher or an author? Those of you who have used writing frames, like Boxing Clever, do you like doing that? Does it help? I'd also love to hear what you like and don't like about author visits. Authors visit schools a lot these days but we don't always get feedback on what went well and what didn't. Sometimes I leave forms for teachers to fill in but it seems a bit mean as they have so much to do anyway.
My new book, 'Piper' will be published on October 31st so I'm getting excited about doing my launch event at Myton School in Warwick - but am less happy to find a note on my desk this evening. The local newspaper wants me to get in touch about it which probably means another photo. I get teased a lot about how much my photo is in the newspaper (it was even in for the Swimathon) and I always feel really embarrassed about it. Definitely one of the worse things about being an author - but you have to go along with it for publicity. With so many new books being published all the time, you really have to do everything possible to get yours noticed! If any body has any bright ideas for publicity stunts, let me know!
This bit's for grown ups...
This week's rant then!
I love visiting primary schools! I'm always amazed by the enthusiasm and energy of the teachers and their incredibly caring, patient attitude to the children. I learn a lot from working alongside them which I often do as I frequently run workshops rather than doing the traditional author talk and reading. But I really do question what on earth is going on with year 6 SATS. Can someone explain to me why 11 year olds are expected to be able to write a coherent short story in 45 minutes, a task the majority of adults would be completely incapable of doing? Short story writing is possibly the most sophisticated and subtle type of creative writng there is - yet children, some of whom are struggling with basic literacy, are assessed under exam conditions on this task - 15 mins to plan, 30 to write. We'd like a beginning, middle and ending, please, clear establishment of characters and setting, the development of a problem which will be resolved in a suitably satisfying way, a build up of tension - oh, and we'd like to know a bit about the feelings of the characters as well. Clear use of connectives, varied sentence openings, adverbs, adjectives, similes and metaphors, please, and a suitable amount of dialogue - make sure you use speech marks and paragraphing correctly!
Right, no sweat! I did actually write one once, to see if it could be done. I just managed it but only because I didn't plan - and if an examiner could have read my handwriting, it would have been a miracle.
A school I visited recently was using a story frame technique called Boxing Clever which I could see was a reasonably effective tool for helping kids to jump through the necessary hoops - a kind of jig-saw puzzle approach to story-writing. These are the bits you need - it's up to you to fit them together. I had huge admiration for the young teacher using the system who's dynamism was utterly inspiring. He and the other teachers I met were absolutely doing the best they could for the kids they were teaching.
But what professional writer uses a story frame? OK, some write to a formula or a very strict brief but that is entirely different from a frame which suggests that these are the 'bits' you need for a story and what writers do is put them together. I certainly don't work in that way (though it might appear so from the product) and I've never met anyone who does. If professional writers don't create stories by using frames, why are kids being taught to use them? Not because they're a real tool used by real professionals but because they're a crutch invented to help kids be examined in a task which is completely inappropriate for them. Yes, allow children to write creatively in school - of course the joy of that should be nurtured. But the only reason they're being examined at all is because it's politically expedient - so why set such a sophisticated literary task that teachers and educationalists are having to come up with task specific tools to get their kids through it? If you have to test their literacy at all (and, I being an ex-home-educator and raving educational liberal, would argue that you shouldn't), for heavens sake, set them a simple, age appropriate literacy task - not something that would stretch a literary genius! Then they might have some time left over for having some fun writing creatively and their teachers (the saints!) would have one less hugely burdensome target to worry about.
Any politicians who'd like to send me their short stories that they've written on a random topic in 45 minutes, are welcome to do so. If I think they're good enough (see the criteria above - oh, and make sure your opening is stunning too so you immediately grab my interest), then I will publish them on my web-site. Meanwhile, I'll carry on helping teachers and children have fun writing creatively - if it helps with the SATS, that's a bonus! Meg
Wednesday 10 October 2007
Very first blog entry! Exciting stuff!
I have to confess - I've rarely read anybody else's blog. I haven't been able to see what the attraction is. But in recent months I have come to realise that I appreciate a place to rant/sound off/let off steam/whatever you want to call it, especially if anyone replies. So I'm giving it a go. If you reply, that'll be a very exciting bonus - but for now I'm just going to enjoy ranting!
If you've read any of my books, you may have guessed that in some ways they're a cover for my ranting habit. I have many axes to grind! Kate, my main character in the the 'My Mum' books has quite a bit of me in her! She argues with God a lot. She struggles with him - or is he a she? She'll probably think about that one day! She raises a lot of spiritual questions. And guess what? So do I - probably much to the irritation of people who have a more secure and straightforward faith. But I'm writing for young people and that seems an appropriate place to raise questions.
I detest 'issue' books - the ones that pretend to tell a story but are really 'to make you think' about abortion or disability or bullying or racism - or whatever! And I know I could be accused of doing that myself. (I so remember one boy I taught who looked in despair at the book I was recommending to him and said, 'God, miss, not another meaningful book!') At heart, I want to change the world - to be Lord Shaftesbury or Bob Geldof or any one of the many people I admire - but my talents and time are limited and I do love writing. So the stories will always have an undercurrent of ranting about something - although I hope they're not 'issue' books but really good stories too. When I look at the ones I've lost interest in or haven't been published, I can see what's missing - they haven't been fired by something I really care about. 'Fur' was interesting because it was initially inspired by a furious moment I had with one of my best friends - I was ranting about the amount of time and money girls and women spend on getting rid of body hair and he just couldn't see what the issue was. But as I began to write, as ever, bigger issues came through - forgiveness, reconciliation, moving on from the pain of the past - stuff I come back to again and again because it seems so important. Two friends pointed out that it was about grace - with a small g. It was only at that point, that I realised the significance of my central character's name - Grace. That gave me the shivers, I can tell you!
And now 'Piper' is soon to be published, fired by my horror at the ruthless killing of Brazilian street children and finding out about children in India going blind from carpet weaving. I'll soon be posting something on my site about why I wrote it - there's more to it than that - but as ever, the need to rant was in the mix!
Wouldn't it be wonderful to have a newspaper column? You could be paid for ranting! I've just done a free column for our local rag ranting about blood doning which was very therapeutic. On Sunday I'll be leading our church's Harvest Festival but the drama which I've helped the young people to create is under-cover ranting about the crisis in British farming. When Michael Morpurgo wrote 'Out of the Ashes' after the last Foot and Mouth outbreak, I spotted a fellow ranter - though he does it far better, of course. He runs Farms for City Children so is action rather than all talk. Deeply admirable. I rant more than I do and satisfy myself with random acts of kindness and sporadic bits of activism. Actions speak louder than words and one of my big gripes with God is that he gave me a gift with words - lovely, very lovely, but impractical. So I rant a lot and hope it motivates others to do quite a lot of acting for me! If you're a young person who reads my books - or an old one for that matter - I hope you love the stories but that in some way your actions will be changed! Scary. Hope that doesn't put you off reading them! Meg
If you've read any of my books, you may have guessed that in some ways they're a cover for my ranting habit. I have many axes to grind! Kate, my main character in the the 'My Mum' books has quite a bit of me in her! She argues with God a lot. She struggles with him - or is he a she? She'll probably think about that one day! She raises a lot of spiritual questions. And guess what? So do I - probably much to the irritation of people who have a more secure and straightforward faith. But I'm writing for young people and that seems an appropriate place to raise questions.
I detest 'issue' books - the ones that pretend to tell a story but are really 'to make you think' about abortion or disability or bullying or racism - or whatever! And I know I could be accused of doing that myself. (I so remember one boy I taught who looked in despair at the book I was recommending to him and said, 'God, miss, not another meaningful book!') At heart, I want to change the world - to be Lord Shaftesbury or Bob Geldof or any one of the many people I admire - but my talents and time are limited and I do love writing. So the stories will always have an undercurrent of ranting about something - although I hope they're not 'issue' books but really good stories too. When I look at the ones I've lost interest in or haven't been published, I can see what's missing - they haven't been fired by something I really care about. 'Fur' was interesting because it was initially inspired by a furious moment I had with one of my best friends - I was ranting about the amount of time and money girls and women spend on getting rid of body hair and he just couldn't see what the issue was. But as I began to write, as ever, bigger issues came through - forgiveness, reconciliation, moving on from the pain of the past - stuff I come back to again and again because it seems so important. Two friends pointed out that it was about grace - with a small g. It was only at that point, that I realised the significance of my central character's name - Grace. That gave me the shivers, I can tell you!
And now 'Piper' is soon to be published, fired by my horror at the ruthless killing of Brazilian street children and finding out about children in India going blind from carpet weaving. I'll soon be posting something on my site about why I wrote it - there's more to it than that - but as ever, the need to rant was in the mix!
Wouldn't it be wonderful to have a newspaper column? You could be paid for ranting! I've just done a free column for our local rag ranting about blood doning which was very therapeutic. On Sunday I'll be leading our church's Harvest Festival but the drama which I've helped the young people to create is under-cover ranting about the crisis in British farming. When Michael Morpurgo wrote 'Out of the Ashes' after the last Foot and Mouth outbreak, I spotted a fellow ranter - though he does it far better, of course. He runs Farms for City Children so is action rather than all talk. Deeply admirable. I rant more than I do and satisfy myself with random acts of kindness and sporadic bits of activism. Actions speak louder than words and one of my big gripes with God is that he gave me a gift with words - lovely, very lovely, but impractical. So I rant a lot and hope it motivates others to do quite a lot of acting for me! If you're a young person who reads my books - or an old one for that matter - I hope you love the stories but that in some way your actions will be changed! Scary. Hope that doesn't put you off reading them! Meg
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